[SorridLives]

I understand your thoughts SorridLives, you will give till the cows come home, emotions, sexually but all you really want is the same communication back,. It's understood, not hidden.. My ex-husband was hidden future, men have provided openess and so love mine, it's like WT? i am finding a side that i thought was general with men but is not, they love the endearing way in which i am open, cautious, real and specific...

To many times we hear, opposites attrack as well as diffence in people.

Men sometimes are men, matcho, let's be private, space... Yes, you are different.

I have read so many posts, you incorporate so much into your relationship sexually, and he adds his bits, obviously you two are way open and experiement.

So, Porn and exitment is now there. You both created a monster an opening, try to see this, ok, it's long, arduous, non eventful, sex, you want intimacy, but you play in a field of total sexual arousement, all sorts.

What else can you do? Your doing.

He's masterbating to get more, you have your toys to get more, right?

And, what you are lacking is, intimacy of two people being.

That is the conversation that you need to have, your getting it, just not the way you want, your both in your corners, doing the things you need. What's missing is togetherness. Maybe forget the Porn conversation talk about your toys, his masterbation, your togetherness, and work through that -part.?

CW

Intimacy. Yes. We have intimacy but we always need more intimacy. He withholds some wanting to keep his private side. Even when I masturbate, I will tell him what got me going,...what gets me horny. He will not do that. To him, if you take him at his word...I have no choice...He says that it is just body parts and I know for sure he really just likes and watches straight up vanilla porn. Nothing kinky. So, I think he just likes the self-indulgence. once in a blue moon, I think he fantasizes about some woman he sees in some venue (daily life) or from his past (an old crush he never got to have sex with but wanted to),...but you are right....more intimacy is always needed.

I really am happy he is home and not cheating. That should be said. Masturbation isn't *that* bad. LOL

Men are from Mars, Women from Venus? LOL