[Guest]

awe! LOL. i do admit that is a good story. i wonder who else saw at the party.

anyhoo!... i must say when meeting a chick for the first time i don't think you would want her to know that you're checking her out in that way. focus! lol. maybe next time if you catch yourself doing that, or if you already said it. try to turn it into a joke. if she's a keeper she'll probably laugh. but if she gets all uptight then you probably don't want to date her anyway.

good luck!

[nsharonew]

I love being told I am sexy and someone loves my curves...FROM MY BOYFRIEND WHO HAS SEEN ME NAKED!!! If someone said that to me at an art thing that I had just met, I don't think I would slap, but I would probably immediately forget about the ham I left in the oven.

You shouldn't say anything about her body until you are actually physical, or almost physical with her. Even if you call her "pretty" you are treading on some pretty thin ice. And it isn't that we don't want to be attractive or pretty, it's just that we are conditioned that men only want one thing, and immediately reach for the pepper spray if we think they are going to try to take it (even though we wear skirts, heels, makeup, v-necks with lots of clevage, and so on).

Appreciate her body, but keep your thoughts to yourself until you have earned the right to touch it, make mental notes. And next time you feel like you have to comment on the hourglass figure, try doing a comparitive compliment like "Has anyone ever told you that you look like...." and fill in the blank with an icon like Bettie Page or Marilyn, it's a safer way to go about it

[WildChild]

Good advice nsharonew but the analogies can get iffy in todays world, Marilyn was beefy by current runway standards (although slender compared to today's actual).There was movie were on of the guy's lines was to tell the girl she looked like a Botticelli, until he encountered one who was familiar with Botticelli's work and informed that all his women were vollumptuous and she wasn't.

Compliments need to be real. This is a long standing problem, Jane Austin's Mr. Collins in Pride and Prejudist admits to pre-preparing, "little compliments, such as would be acceptable to the ladies". A male neighbor I ran into the other day at the grocery told me, "you look fantastic today", that was nice to hear. It was general enough not to be misunderstood. Part of a compliment is non verbal, I just chuckle when I'm shopping, head up an aisle and see the men up ahead sucking in their guts and standing up straighter. That's a compliment, even if they don't realize they did it. LOL

[mewhenim]

yeah I'd have to advise not to be that specific, complementing looks the first time you meet someone is a little weird, or so I think.