[classy_lady]

If someone asks you a question that is personal and that surprises you, and before making up your mind whether you will answer you ask him "why are you asking?" what does that tell him about you/what message are you sending out?

[Guest]

that you are wondering why they would ask such a personal question?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You were asked a question and your response was following through with another "question", which is a good way of avoiding an answer, well done.

If the question was personal pertaining to your sex life, preference, past sex life, etc, it's not any of his business, it may be that he is interested in this instance but has standards which is wrong.

If a person can't accept another person for themselves, and like them for themselves and not wonder or care about past, then they are a winner.

I am guessing here, naturally, but that's the only personal questions I can think off.

CW

[classy_lady]

Don't want to bore you w/ all the details, but he asked if I was planning to have kids and I thought to myself that he is trying to insult me by meaning something like "are you planning to sleep with me?" I was talking to him about my professional goals when he brought this up. He answered me back by saying "because it can be though with 2 jobs" [FYI, both of my two "jobs" are highly professional and demanding]. The thing is my gut feeling just did not buy his explanation given that he had told me and a group of other people how much he liked kids and I knew in fact that he did not have any of his own.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Then I think he is just "thinking" how are you ever going to marry and have children when you so career minded, and he is children and family orientated.

That's how I read that.

CW

[classy_lady]

we were not dating or anything. We just happened to be chatting and one topic lead into the next and we winded up at this.

[withered_rose]

I think that he was just trying to see where you wanted to go with life, if you always wanted to stay career oriented or if you wanted to slow things down and eventually try and have a family.

[classy_lady]

So you think he was interested in a relationship or something more than the fact that we just knew each other?

[Haven]

He could be screening you for compatibility, consciously or not. Another possibility is that when you were telling him about your life, he thought about it in terms of his priorities instead of yours.

My advice is not to overthink it. If he's attracted to you, he'll let you know more overtly than that.

[happy ending]

yes that sounds like a fairly general question to me. some people are dedicated to their career not really interested in the family side of things, i have a lot of friends like that, some are 1/2 career, 1/2 family. probably just wanted to see where you fit in.