[WildChild]

If someone asks you a question that is personal and that surprises you, and before making up your mind whether you will answer you ask him "why are you asking?" what does that tell him about you/what message are you sending out?

It's a polite way of snubbing someone who has asked an inappropriate question. It's less abrupt than saying, "none of your business". Essentially it turns it back on them.

[Hopeless Dork]

"Why are you asking"?

Hearing that would make me feel like 1. The person is not wanting to answer the question posed and 2. They are stalling for time to think up an appropriate answer or 3. They want to know more about why I am asking the question to try to tailor their answer to one they think I want to hear.

"How many girls have you slept with?"

"Why are you asking?"

"Ohhhhh cuz I have slept with so many guys I just want to see where you stand on that "

*sigh of relief*

"oh in that case 1500!!!".


"How many girls have you slept with?"

"Why are you asking?"

"because I believe one should treat their body as a temple and sleeping with lots of people shows that you don't respect yourself "

*uh oh...hmmm*

"3!!!".

There, see how that little bit of feedback can help a person tailor? :-) For the other part of what you were talking about , sounds like to me he may have an interest in you, but is wondering like someone else said, if there would be a future. You know he's interested in kids and has none, asking you would be a way of knowing whether or not you would ever break from your career long enough to do it. Or it was just curiousity, it would depend on how else he is acting around you to know for sure.

[Fatin]

yeah i dont think ur like sending any message or something u rjust wondering ..