[ThexMrs]

I totally disagree.

30 days is long enough to jump into bed with someone else after you were dumped by the person you were head over heels in love with? No... Those feelings are not going to be gone that quickly unless it was never really love to begin with. 30 days later, you're rebounding. Really, she knows the answer herself. Why do you think she titled this thread, Rebound?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Exactly... I think it would be an act of desperation.

she knows the answer herself.

She's the Cat's Mother

Hun, you called it "desperation"...

A person isn't desperate just because she /he chooses after 30 days, and an abundance of suitors, dates, which she / he chose not to turn intimate throughout that time, to then want to feel close to "someone".

Rebound is generally, going into another relationship with someone else, whilst still in love.. You are correct on that notation.....

But:- Wanting love is a totally different thing... Missing what you had and felt was yours to be torn away from you without a logical reason? And, being told that "you are my friend"... "I need you..." "as a friend"......


You know more than anyone. Women are emotional creates and at some point, we all need love.

From
Someone
Else.

You have to remember, it's irrelevant if you are "in love" with that person or not... He has extended only a hand of friendship... nothing more.. promises no more and refuses to offer more, yet texts her all the time.

It so reminds me of a situation of another lady, whom is in love... however, he only offers friendship, and she is with another man, for emotional comfort and has slept with him as well.

Time is not of the essense...

With age also comes independent thoughts...

I will use me as an example.

I absolutely loved my last boyfriend and he professed same, however, took it back one day, hasn't talked to me for a month... Do you seriously think that irrespective of how much I love him that I will not allow someone in my bed for "love/comfort/warmth" just for one night?

HECK YEAH..... if that is what I WANT.. Because the only person we live for is ourselves, until we find that equal partner of life... Not some, fishing line, reeling in and letting go and then reeling in again....

But we are entitled to our own opinions.

CW

[ThexMrs]

But:- Wanting love is a totally different thing... Missing what you had and felt was yours to be torn away from you without a logical reason? And, being told that "you are my friend"... "I need you..." "as a friend"......

I don't see how wanting love and jumping into bed with someone go together. I understand that you want to feel love and feel needed but be logical about it. Having sex with someone is not going to make you feel loved. That person doesn't love you and you don't love them. It's just a cover up for the real feelings that you have going on underneath the surface.

You have to remember, it's irrelevant if you are "in love" with that person or not... He has extended only a hand of friendship... nothing more.. promises no more and refuses to offer more, yet texts her all the time.

Yes and that is something that she has to deal with but not by getting into bed with someone else but by either cutting off the contact or accepting that it is what it is.

It so reminds me of a situation of another lady, whom is in love... however, he only offers friendship, and she is with another man, for emotional comfort and has slept with him as well.

Not a month after and it wasn't for the same reasons. On top of that, the man wasn't just saying "I'm your friend." He was saying, "I love you. I want to move there. It's just the distance." Different circumstances.

Maybe she's not "desperate" per se but it is a rebound. She knows that.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I don't disagree with you Linds..

But,

Rebound relationships serve a purpose:

To protect the heart from the devastation of losing someone very important. Like a very big cushion, they protect us from the trauma of the fall which is experienced when a deep connection is abruptly severed.

These relationships can be healthy, as long as you remain aware of their purpose and take your time with your new partner. If you're not paying attention, however, a rebound relationship can be unhealthy.


However, there is nothing wrong with wanting arms around you in times like this..if you understand what you are doing at the time, then it is what it is.


Your using the word love as if, you have to hold onto your sexuality after for ever because you loved him.

It's not ever going to happen like that.

Needs and wants are part of life. Sex doesn't mean love. But, it may be needed as a replacement, yes, rebound at some point.

And, there is nothing at all wrong with that...

We will just have to agree to disagree....

[ThexMrs]

Yes, we will agree to disagree... Rebound.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

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