Since I seem to always get really good advice from the people on here, I thought I would seek some more...I am relationship stupid!
So the story is, I have known Liam for about 4 years. We met at work, he is a police officer and I do admin work for them. Right away we chatted like old friends, he had a girlfriend at the time, and unfortunately he got transferred to a city about 4 hours away. We still kept in contact, mostly through e-mailing/Facebook...so a couple weeks ago I was gonna be in the city where he works so I sent him a message with my # to call. Just my luck, he was actually going to working in the city where I recently relocated (we are now only 2 hours apart) for that weekend, and part of the following week. Buuuuuuut, he called me!!! He was doing some surveillance so he called me while he was working and we talked for about an hour and half....then said if I was gonna be up for a bit he would take his break and come see me for a few minutes. So he did...and he scoped out my new pad, and he checked the air filter in my furnace and told me I need to change it (don't ask). Then he ended up asking me to go for dinner with him, so I said yes...he paid for dinner, went to the store with me to get the right air filters for the furnace and we even stopped off at my parents new house (he's really into building homes) so he could take a look and he ended up chatting with them for about half an hour. Then he went back to his city. He did hug me before he left, and he texted me to let me know he got home. And yes he broke up with his girlfriend about 9 months ago.
Within 4 days he texted me to see how things were...and I told him I was coming to his city for a concert. My brother happened to bail on me so I had an extra ticket and offered it to him....and he accepted and asked me to stay at his place (which I declined very politely). Concert = hip hop. Then again...my awesome luck...the concert gets cancelled the night before, so I didn't end up going.
We have talked on the phone a few times since then...he's called a couple times, and I have called him a couple times. I was off for a few days, and he told me to call him at work...weird....most guys hate that. None of our conversations have been less than 40 minutes and we have talked about the good, the bad and the ugly.
Now we were thinking about getting together next weekend...but with his job, he got notice that he may have to go for special ops next week in my city (so we would probably see each other), but if he is here all week he may just want to go back home come the weekend...which I can totally understand. But he said if he doesn't have to come here, or at least doesn't have to be here all week, he would love to come down for the weekend and hang out.
This is all great....and here is the but.....when we have been talking he has said things like he joined this dating service because he can't seem to meet anyone, but he hasn't managed to go out on any dates as yet, he has just been reading people's profiles. He has also said he's not just looking for a hook up, he wants to meet someone for the long term. And he's made references to me meeting someone, and saying things like "don't just settle", "the right guys will come along", etc.
So my question is....am I just the girl he feels comfortable talking to about his personal stuff, or is he testing the waters to see if he is interested, or is he just plain old interested and playing hard to get? ANY advice as to what I should do next...please let me know...do I tell him how I feel? Do I just let it play out on it's own? But I'm scared that that means the opportunity will pass by.
So the story is, I have known Liam for about 4 years. We met at work, he is a police officer and I do admin work for them. Right away we chatted like old friends, he had a girlfriend at the time, and unfortunately he got transferred to a city about 4 hours away. We still kept in contact, mostly through e-mailing/Facebook...so a couple weeks ago I was gonna be in the city where he works so I sent him a message with my # to call. Just my luck, he was actually going to working in the city where I recently relocated (we are now only 2 hours apart) for that weekend, and part of the following week. Buuuuuuut, he called me!!! He was doing some surveillance so he called me while he was working and we talked for about an hour and half....then said if I was gonna be up for a bit he would take his break and come see me for a few minutes. So he did...and he scoped out my new pad, and he checked the air filter in my furnace and told me I need to change it (don't ask). Then he ended up asking me to go for dinner with him, so I said yes...he paid for dinner, went to the store with me to get the right air filters for the furnace and we even stopped off at my parents new house (he's really into building homes) so he could take a look and he ended up chatting with them for about half an hour. Then he went back to his city. He did hug me before he left, and he texted me to let me know he got home. And yes he broke up with his girlfriend about 9 months ago.
Within 4 days he texted me to see how things were...and I told him I was coming to his city for a concert. My brother happened to bail on me so I had an extra ticket and offered it to him....and he accepted and asked me to stay at his place (which I declined very politely). Concert = hip hop. Then again...my awesome luck...the concert gets cancelled the night before, so I didn't end up going.
We have talked on the phone a few times since then...he's called a couple times, and I have called him a couple times. I was off for a few days, and he told me to call him at work...weird....most guys hate that. None of our conversations have been less than 40 minutes and we have talked about the good, the bad and the ugly.
Now we were thinking about getting together next weekend...but with his job, he got notice that he may have to go for special ops next week in my city (so we would probably see each other), but if he is here all week he may just want to go back home come the weekend...which I can totally understand. But he said if he doesn't have to come here, or at least doesn't have to be here all week, he would love to come down for the weekend and hang out.
This is all great....and here is the but.....when we have been talking he has said things like he joined this dating service because he can't seem to meet anyone, but he hasn't managed to go out on any dates as yet, he has just been reading people's profiles. He has also said he's not just looking for a hook up, he wants to meet someone for the long term. And he's made references to me meeting someone, and saying things like "don't just settle", "the right guys will come along", etc.
So my question is....am I just the girl he feels comfortable talking to about his personal stuff, or is he testing the waters to see if he is interested, or is he just plain old interested and playing hard to get? ANY advice as to what I should do next...please let me know...do I tell him how I feel? Do I just let it play out on it's own? But I'm scared that that means the opportunity will pass by.
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