Hello,
I'm new to this wonderful forum, so thanks for taking the time to read my post!
A little background about my my relationship: I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 and a half years now. We started out extremely passionate -- long love-making sessions, sometimes twice in one day. We've since moved in together (it's been a year) and while we feel just as close, the sex has tapered off.
I'm aware that this is a natural phenomenon in most relationships once the infatuation period passes, but my pesky brain keeps insisting that my bf just doesn't desire me. We are both physically attractive and fit, so body-wise, nothing has changed. We also both teach at a local high school (high levels of stress!) so it's possible we've fallen into a comfortable rut of "hey, what's on TV tonight?"
We typically have sex once a week, usually on a weekend morning. It's always very good and full of feeling. My bf is quite talented at lasting a long time and only coming after I come. We also cuddle constantly, slap each other on the butt, say i love you, etc. My concern is this: shouldn't a male in his early thirties initiate sex more often, or want it more? There are evenings when we get home, and I'll straddle him on the couch, but rather than sex ensuing, we fall into a cuddle. Is this a sign that the spark has just fled?
A few weeks ago I went away for a conference, and when I returned, we did it three times in a row. So maybe it's just the inevitable familiarity at play here...any comments would be greatly appreciated! I guess my ultimate question is this: is quality sex once a week normal for a guy, or does it indicate a major dip in desire for his partner? I'm not ill-content with our frequency (although I wouldn't complain if we upped it to 2-3 times a week!) but only fear that he should desire me more.
I'm new to this wonderful forum, so thanks for taking the time to read my post!
A little background about my my relationship: I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 and a half years now. We started out extremely passionate -- long love-making sessions, sometimes twice in one day. We've since moved in together (it's been a year) and while we feel just as close, the sex has tapered off.
I'm aware that this is a natural phenomenon in most relationships once the infatuation period passes, but my pesky brain keeps insisting that my bf just doesn't desire me. We are both physically attractive and fit, so body-wise, nothing has changed. We also both teach at a local high school (high levels of stress!) so it's possible we've fallen into a comfortable rut of "hey, what's on TV tonight?"
We typically have sex once a week, usually on a weekend morning. It's always very good and full of feeling. My bf is quite talented at lasting a long time and only coming after I come. We also cuddle constantly, slap each other on the butt, say i love you, etc. My concern is this: shouldn't a male in his early thirties initiate sex more often, or want it more? There are evenings when we get home, and I'll straddle him on the couch, but rather than sex ensuing, we fall into a cuddle. Is this a sign that the spark has just fled?
A few weeks ago I went away for a conference, and when I returned, we did it three times in a row. So maybe it's just the inevitable familiarity at play here...any comments would be greatly appreciated! I guess my ultimate question is this: is quality sex once a week normal for a guy, or does it indicate a major dip in desire for his partner? I'm not ill-content with our frequency (although I wouldn't complain if we upped it to 2-3 times a week!) but only fear that he should desire me more.
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