[emily100]

I've been dating man A for about 3 weeks and man B for two weeks. When I am with man A I feel more sparks and chemistry. He told me is also dating others which I said is fine at this point because I am also. We have great conversations and he holds my hand over dinner and is always touching me. But he is moving slower than man B.

I have fun with man B as well who is equally well educated but man A is brighter somehow. Intelligience is a real turn on for me. Man B seems to be really into me. I feel like he already sees me as girlfriend material and isn't seeing anyone else. Whereas man A sees me as dating material as this point.

Is there anything I can do to move things along with man A? I'm not calling him or emailing him or anything. I want to up his interest.

I almost feel that man B is ready for a domestic situation.

[sourpuss]

Start showing more interest and see if he reciprocates.

[stressed]

It looks like man B is not a good choice, but man A can cause you troubles in the long run. Also, the physical aspect is also a plus. You seem to be more into man A than B, but you do like B's attention. Focus on man A and take it slow, you wouldn't want to fall for a man who is only into dating.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I would tend to think from what you've stated that Man (B), is perhaps an emotional person, falls quickly for someone and has you. He would also be a faithful person, based on what you've stated.

Man (A), seems to ooze confidence and is aware that he can make his own choice and may even be ever so slightly a player but deep inside, they still want a "lady" at least on the outside, (not in the bedroom), and may find that his other dates become "clingly" like your Man (B), or jump in bed with him early and his numbers dwindle back to you.

Try not to be a "friend" on your dates, ooze sex appeal "naturally" not verbally or body language, just sexy in the way you smile, dress with "wonder" and share his conversations, all of them so that he starts to see common ground with you....

CW

[emily100]

Men!

Update: man A did not call me this week to see me. However, man B did. so, I have date with man B tonight. I feel hurt and so I give up on man A as I suspect he has a large selection of women to choose from. Meanwhile, there is also new man C and new man D. I have no problem attracting men but attracting someone I really like and admire is another question.

[sourpuss]

You'er on fire emily! Go get em girl.

[caterpillar79]

I am treading familiar waters here. Forget Man A - if he really likes you, he'll initiate.

Man B - give him the 'benefit of the doubt'

Mans C and D - watch out for the subtle cues each gives you.

Just keep dating, cautious enough not to give anyone the milk unless of course you deem fitting. Man B seems to have found an emotional link with you. How do you feel about it now?

[Futureboy]

You can't have Man A therefore you want him

Man B is a gentleman and interested therefore he is boring

Man B thinks I am nearly in but she's not attainable therefore he ups the seriousness quoter, attention flowers etc.

Man B is subscribing to the be good to her she'll be good to me.

Man C and Man D are new and exciting Evetually Man C = A and Man D = B there is a Man E and a Man F

Man A = Player
Man B = Nice boy
Man C+D eventually = Man A+B

Just Pick one otherwise you're just hedging your bets too much and will just keep comparing them.

Chances are you will pick the wrong one a Man X will be just around the corner

[caterpillar79]

Futureboy, I like your equation! Well done!

[Calicorado83]

You want to be the beautiful butterfly to Man A without being the butterfly to Man B. Tricky situation. Does Man B know you are seeing other members of the alphabet? Because I'm thinking if he DID know, maybe he is trying to up his game to keep your attention. It's hard to repel guys just enough to back off a little and give you room. I most of the time get annoyed with trying to be nice and then ultimately turn into a nasty Bee-Itch. But also, guys have a hard time reading between the lines. You have to turn the pages of the book for them sometimes.

I always find that when I give off a more care-free, laid-back, happy-go-lucky attitude where I don't "notice" the Man's interest, he's drawn to me like a magnet. And smile a lot too, around Man A, that always works too.