[GiiGii_89]

I dated this guy for 2yr and 7 months. My first real boyfriend, we met when i was 15. We broke up because he said he didnt love me anymore, and he started dating another girl. That was almost 2 yrs ago, and some how im still dead over heels in love with him. How can i just get over it ?

[sourpuss]

I'm guessing you are around 18?
Get out, meet people, make new friends. Focus on yourself. There are so many more life experiences and people in your future. Life is too short to pine over the ones that got away.
Besides, who wants to be with someone who doesn't love them? Not me man.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So many girls have difficulty getting over their first love. He moved on 2 years ago, you didn't..

If you allowed yourself to open up and let someone else be in your life, you would get over him because the new guy, new adventure, new love would be better and stronger, as each relationship we learn what we don't want next time.

Start dating, ... Your 20 I think, from those sums... Don't sit back for another 5 years.

[Futureboy]

I have wasted 2 years of my life in a similar way. You have to accept you loss and move on otherwise you will miss out on an even better guy!!!!!!!!!!

But to get a new guy you need to dump the baggage. You may not dump it all but you need to get get it down from a 5 piece Louis Vuitton luggage set to a prada purse

This is what I suggest you do:

Taken a more proactive approach to dating = match.com or similar. If you are 18-20 ish and preffer older guys this is excellent, still good for guys your own age, just more competition. You will have to percervire as for every prince there are at least ten frogs.

Widen you circle of friends this will give you new perspectives and new people to meet.

Write yourself a list of what you want do next year avoid putting on it things like: get a boy friend, get laid etc. these are not wholly in you control and will come naturally.

This is some of my list Acheive 16 points before Dec 2010

3 points for 40 Gym visits
3 points for going on a part time college course
1 point make my room nice
5 points go on a big trip
1 point per £1k save £4k,£5k,£7k
5 points +2" Chest to waist size
5 points buy a home
1 point ride my motorbike over a car
1 point go sea kayaking
5 points migrate


etc.

Make you list SMART

S - specific, significant, stretching

M - measurable, meaningful, motivational

A - agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented

R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented

T - time-based, timely, tangible, trackable

As you can see some of my goals work against each other hense the points system.

I have already made a separate page for each task and what I have to do to achieve them. I am already looking forward to knocking a few of these off in the new year.

Your list might not get you a guy but you should enjoy achieving something over the next 12 months

Don't beat yourself up if you can't do something enjoy what you have and what you do achieve.

Enjoy

[Futureboy]

May be I should put on learn to spell

[GiiGii_89]

Thank you all for your responses. Though I do agree with you all there is something missing i forgot to add. Even though we have not been a couple for 2 yrs. we have the same friends and run into each other sometimes, plus the occasional hook up and late nigh visits. I know that what I am doing is wrong but whenever im around him i act like a stupid girl on heat . I get butterflies and cannot stop smiling, he handles me so easily and knows exactly what to do or say to get his way. I should most definatly cut him out of my life correct?

[Na-Na]

Yes. He's playing you, and that's so not a good thing. He left you for another girl, and two years later he still knows if he comes knocking, you're going to fall into his hands. I doubt he cares for you, or even has any respect for you. Do you really want to continue a harmful relationship with a guy like that?

[Mes T]

I agree with Na-Na, sounds like there's no care or respect, and once you fully realize this I think you're gonna be ****ed off and disgusted, not infatuated!

Your life is only now beginning, don't waste another moment!

[Guest]

i feel for you and sorry you are going through this. each one of us have gone through something similar when we were younger with our first crush.

the first thing you need to do is to stop being his late night snack.

i am not usually a fan of rebound relationships, but sometimes they do serve a purpose. a friend recently broke up with her fiance of 4 years (dated for 15 - long story) and i recommended she find someone to, well, i'm not sure i can say exactly, but a bit more than a one night stand, but less than a one week stand. she put it off for a few weeks, and then i get a call from her saying it was the best thing she ever could have done, because it showed her that she was desirable and that other guys would want her.

I am not saying you should just go and jump the next guy or guys that come along, but you do need to start dating and seeing what else is out there.

[Futureboy]

I have sick feelings when I bump into my ex not as bad as you. Avoid him as best you can until you can get yourself straight.