[pretzel]

Just wanted to add an update to this whole dramatic chapter of this post, probably more for my own peace of mind. I had another talk with him today, and you probably hit it on the head in the last part of your last post, CW. I asked him a series of questions for answers that I needed. For me. What he misses is the ability to just goof off with his friends and just be a guy which is impossible when I'm here in this house of men. He misses the ability to come home to his own room and his own space and not have the additional thought in his head when I am sitting in that room whether or not I'm happy or whether or not I'm entertained. Of course, this isn't a scenario where I want to play judge and call that right or wrong. It just is how it is and where he is in life right now. We decided not to put off my moving after all and I will sign a lease this weekend rather than later. (He initially said not to rush into because he didn't want to make me feel like I was being forced out.) I'm not sure what is going to happen from here, but at least I'll be in my own place on my own terms as well. Please keep your fingers crossed for me and thanks for all you've thoughtfully posted, everyone!

Well it may not be the best solution as far as the relationship goes, but it does seem like the best move for you personally.

I wish you the best of luck.

[GoodEgg]

Thanks, pretzel and everyone who have offered their kind thoughts! Just an update, that moving is imminent, but will have to wait until the first week of March. It's going to be a long 6 weeks. He's pretending nothing is wrong, but he's fluctuating too. He keeps telling me about movies and books that he is disappointed in because the main character "cops out" and finds a love interest instead of spending time having fun. One day is up, the next day he's down (as down as he gets). Since he's not one to think too deeply about his reactions to things, I stepped up to the plate today and offered to step back from his life once I move out. He told me he didn't want that. Really wish I could see into that guys's head. :P I say. :P

[caterpillar79]

Good luck to you, GoodEgg. You are indeed a woman of courage. I believe it is the way to go.

Him saying that "he doesn't want that" somehow tells me two things: 1. he really means it, and just needed some alone time, or 2. it is his "polite" way of saying YES, please do.

Whatever it is, what you are doing is best for you. Hang in there.

[GoodEgg]

Your signature, Caterpillar, says it all! I'm sure I'll be posting as things go on. You guys are such wonderful support I could just cry!

[pretzel]

Thanks, pretzel and everyone who have offered their kind thoughts! Just an update, that moving is imminent, but will have to wait until the first week of March. It's going to be a long 6 weeks. He's pretending nothing is wrong, but he's fluctuating too. He keeps telling me about movies and books that he is disappointed in because the main character "cops out" and finds a love interest instead of spending time having fun. One day is up, the next day he's down (as down as he gets). Since he's not one to think too deeply about his reactions to things, I stepped up to the plate today and offered to step back from his life once I move out. He told me he didn't want that. Really wish I could see into that guys's head. :P I say. :P

Did he actually say that?

Somehow that speaks volumes more about him than anything.

I really do hope that this works out for you and what's best for you.

[GoodEgg]

Yes, he did. It is telling, isn't it? Actually it was that statement (he mentioned the book a week or two ago, the movie is more recent), that prompted me to say that maybe we should take a break, but he didn't want that. Now, whether he's saying that to spare my feelings or not that's something else.

I'm going to see if I can get out of this house sooner, but I may be here for the long haul until March so until then I'm just taking my life day by day. Trying to see the positives rather than the negatives. Maybe this change will give him the time he needs to figure out what he's looking for, whether or not that includes a role for me. Right now, he doesn't seem to know.