[GentlemanGhost]

Ok, so there is this Physicans Assistant at work(yes your read right) who is into me. Here is why I think so:


-Laughs at whatever I say

-Constantly smiles at me.

-Assists me with my pathetic job(I transport patients part time).

-Tries to talk to me a lot when she isn't busy


I am into her to mostly because of her personaility. So, what is the problem?:


-She is a Physicans Assistant

-She is a Physicans Assistant


-Did I mention that she is a Physicans Assistant?

I am:

-In school for a 2 year degree in Radiology Technology(lamesauce)

-Getting a Bachelors in Radiographic Science afterwards...or ultrasound

-22 and not done with college

-Have a mediocre face

-I am in good shape according to people at work

-Live with my parents at 22.

-An ex special ed student

-In a crappy situation for 22.










How the heck am I supposed to ask a girl like this out given my current circumstance???

[Goodgirl93]

Sweets,If she is going to judge you on your past,or judge you on things that shouldn't matter,like living with your parents,or not being done with college,then she isn't worth your time.She must like you from the sounds of it.Go for it! What's the worst thing that can happen?she say no? Pfft,it happens to all of us at some point or another.Get to know her,get her number,maybe take things slow or at a compfortable pace,and I think you'll do great hun.

[caterpillar79]

Dude, just ask her, that's all. Approach and brave it, be a man. Inhale and approach her or when she comes by and talks to you, you can say, "I realized we have some things in common, we should try ____ (fill-in the place) sometime, I heard they've got really good food there". Just do it casually, as if you were talking to a friend. Be real.

Your being an ex-SPED, college undergrad, living conditions, etc... should have no bearing on this. And did I say welcome back?

[WildChild]

Instead of judging youself, why don't you let her judge for herself.
My 19 (almost) year old daughter and I were discussing the other day, how guys won't ask out really attractive or intelligent girls.

When I was in HS, not one boy from my school ever asked me out, at my 30 yr reunion a couple commented that they had wanted to but thought I was too pretty and too smart for them - like to take a guess what it did to my self esteem as a teen?

My daughter says this still goes on. She knows some very attractive, smart, fun girls who rarely get asked out and when she's asked her guy freinds why, they say they aren't good enough to ask them out. My daughter say the girls are really hurt.

So quit beating yourself up, focus on what you have going for you - you are getting your education, will have less debt when you finish because you are living at home now, you will be caring, you will be attentive and considerate. That's a lot more than you can say about many men.

[caterpillar79]

.. how guys won't ask out really attractive or intelligent girls....they say they aren't good enough to ask them out. My daughter say the girls are really hurt.

I'd say this opened my eyes, WC. I never thought of that. When I was in college, I thought I was not attractive enough to be asked out for a date. I was later asked when I was a senior, but boy, it sure ruined my self-esteem as far as dating is concerned.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I agree, I recently showed an old Modelling photo to my new man, and his comment?

"Glad I didn't meet you then".. That was my problem, guys felt I was unapproachable, yet I was so down to earth and still am, was my answer.

Just do it.

[Explorer44]

I would say just ask. When I was dating a surgeon once, he asked me if I would still care for him if he wasn't a doctor. I looked at him in amazement.

My response? "To me, you are a man who happens to be a doctor. It is the man I want to be with, to hold, to talk with and to listen to."

[PJhavinfunagain]

Aw hun.... Don't even think about all that other stuff. If you think she's into you she probably is. If she just likes you as a possible friend than oh well. But you just never know. DH and I were buddies for YEARS!!! 8-9 to be exact. We will celebrate 9 years of marriage tomorrow.

[Futureboy]

Ghost you are putting obsticles in your way

CWs right My mother used to run a modelling agency all the girls moaned no one would ask them out.

Girls usually make it pretty clear when they are not interested they tell you they have a boyfriend or they never make eye contact with you.

You need a 'face saver' ask out which allows for denyability. Try:

I am nipping out for a coffee/snack in the canteen fancy coming you look like your in need of a coffee? No - ok I'll probably be with Sarah/Jane if you change your mind.

I have spare ticket for Football/Concert and my brother has let me down, What you doing tonight?

Any girl will see through these lines but will allow you to keep your dinity if she blows you out. Only problem is she may see this as a friend thing at some point you have to hint you fancy her. Which usually involves somesort of compliment. Ideally you need to touch her and see her reaction, on the elbow or hand is good because it is intimate but not too intrusive

Report back

PS leave it too long and you will blow it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!