[Saralaise]

My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year now, and he has this insecurity that he hasn't been able to overcome.

I know we are all our worst critic, but he really has an issue with being seen naked. He has a great body and nothing is physically wrong with him. He won't undress in front of me, and after sex he immediately grabs the sheet to cover himself.

I, on the other hand, don't mind undressing in front of him, and I don't have a problem being naked with him in bed. If I ever cover myself up, he asks me why and tries to pull the covers away, which I find to be hypocritical, because if I did that to him, he wouldn't like it.

What can I do to help him be at ease with being naked?

[Mes T]

Hmm. How about starting with keeping all the lights off and maybe just laying in bed together, or does that make him uncomfortable too?

[stressed]

Or how about making sex last longer, since he's already naked then, and you take a few moments back to look at him, mention how good he looks and so on. It might make him realize that it's okay to be naked and that you actually like it.

You could also ask why he feels this way, to find where this originates from.

[LedZeppelin]

Everybody seems to overlook such a simple aspect of a relationship: Communication. Have you talked to him about this ? Maybe there was an event that happened in the past that triggers this fear of getting naked in front of you. Its your job to make him feel okay naked. You getting undressed freely isnt enough to show him that your completely comfortable with him. You need to show him that you love his body. Us men have just as much insecurities as any woman out there and some of us lack a lot of confidence. You need to tell him how much you love to see him naked, maybe even help undress him. But first and foremost talk about it. Im sure he ll be confident and comfortable soon enough

[Hopeless Dork]

I'm weird about being naked always have been. I've never in my life slept in the nude. Other people being naked doesn't bother me, when my boyfriend is naked I love it but me? I always have to have something on. If my shirt is off I want panties if my panties are off I want a shirt. I hate to feel I have nothing.. its insecurity issue as well as just comfort zone.

[FeministBen]

I can't really relate to this as a bloke, as I can't think of anythin more freein than bein naked, especially in front of people. It's like saying 'You were expecting me to wear clothes? Oh no no, dear, I have another idea. Behold man in all his unshaven glory!' and therefore there is nothing manlier.

I recommend you do something to boost his ego. Tell him he looks good, like he's been workin out i duno. What part does he cover up? Whatever part that might be, it looks big and masculine, emphasise that.

If that sounds incredibly simple and childish, you've taken your first steps in understandin the male ego, well done.

[Mes T]

I can't really relate to this as a bloke, as I can't think of anythin more freein than bein naked, especially in front of people. It's like saying 'You were expecting me to wear clothes? Oh no no, dear, I have another idea. Behold man in all his unshaven glory!' and therefore there is nothing manlier.

I recommend you do something to boost his ego. Tell him he looks good, like he's been workin out i duno. What part does he cover up? Whatever part that might be, it looks big and masculine, emphasise that.

If that sounds incredibly simple and childish, you've taken your first steps in understandin the male ego, well done.

Omg. Your post made me smile.

[stressed]

I can't really relate to this as a bloke, as I can't think of anythin more freein than bein naked, especially in front of people. It's like saying 'You were expecting me to wear clothes? Oh no no, dear, I have another idea. Behold man in all his unshaven glory!' and therefore there is nothing manlier.

I recommend you do something to boost his ego. Tell him he looks good, like he's been workin out i duno. What part does he cover up? Whatever part that might be, it looks big and masculine, emphasise that.

If that sounds incredibly simple and childish, you've taken your first steps in understandin the male ego, well done.

That's true! (and it also made me smile).

It's amazing how men always smile and fill their lungs with an air of confidence as soon as we say "oh how strong you are, how big your muscles are, what a masculine man you are", it always works (and makes them run to open every jar for us just to hear us say it again).

[pretzel]

My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year now, and he has this insecurity that he hasn't been able to overcome.

I know we are all our worst critic, but he really has an issue with being seen naked. He has a great body and nothing is physically wrong with him. He won't undress in front of me, and after sex he immediately grabs the sheet to cover himself.

I, on the other hand, don't mind undressing in front of him, and I don't have a problem being naked with him in bed. If I ever cover myself up, he asks me why and tries to pull the covers away, which I find to be hypocritical, because if I did that to him, he wouldn't like it.

What can I do to help him be at ease with being naked?

At this point, probably nothing. I also wouldn't let it bother me that much either.

There isn't a person alive who doesn't have their own little idiocyncracies. Sometimes just let them have them, tease them a litttle on it (just a little, don't go too far) and just realize that that is part of who he is.