[happy ending]

i am exactly the same as wildchild and lanabear, my daughter seems to find it a bit embarassing, but she will have to learn to deal with it. i cant believe it when people let their child sleepover at my house when they havent even met me, WTF!! anyway hint of lime your mum is obviously different, is she a bit shy maybe?

[WildChild]

When my daughter turned 11 she had a sleep over Bday party and several parents just dropped their child and ran. Never got out of the vehicle. I was shocked. Had the same thing happen a couple years later with my son.
I don't get it.

[happy ending]

i am the same WC, when my daughter goes to a new friends house, i meet the parents, scope out the circumstances and ask lots of nosy questions. i am a bit reserved and it always causes me heaps of anxiety, a lot of parents dont for some reason.

[pretzel]

We were the same when our kids were "kids". We never let them stay at a friends or had their friends over without first meeting the parents.

The question becomes when you give the freedom?

[WildChild]

As they've gotten older I've found my kids are selective about who they make freinds with. I backed off on my daughter as she hit 16 and the same with my son. I worked at teaching them to think things through and to not just follow the crowd. Really by 16 you've either done your job well or not.

[pretzel]

As they've gotten older I've found my kids are selective about who they make freinds with. I backed off on my daughter as she hit 16 and the same with my son. I worked at teaching them to think things through and to not just follow the crowd. Really by 16 you've either done your job well or not.

That's pretty much true, but sometimes they still are as stupid as the day is long.

[WildChild]

LOL yeah in that case an aware parent should know. I've gradually given mine more leaway to make their own decisions. One thing I insist on and it's something I still do, is that I have to know where they are going, how, with whom, when they expect to be back. If it's camping or something like that, what route they plan to take. We have large areas of the mountains with little or no cell coverage and things like rock slides (one took out part of I-70 last week) that can shut down highways in a instant.
There are times I'll ask them to rethink their plans. Neither of mine have any wild friends. I guess its a like attracts like thing.

[LanaBear]

That's pretty much true, but sometimes they still are as stupid as the day is long.

OMG! That cracked me up...

My hubby was talking to his dad last night and man oh man, I feel for my FIL. My BIL still lives at home (20 and going to school) so somewhat forgivable. But Lord, they are having a time with him. He just really doesn't think a lot of things through and just does stupid stupid stuff. I think my FIL is about to strangle him. lol

[hintoflime]

My daughter has been dating the same young man for 4 years. I met his sister, father and father's girl freind within a few weeks of their starting to date because she wanted to spend time at his house and I have a rule of meeting the parents before my kids spend time at anyone's house. I have met his aunt, grandmother, mother and stepfather and know where their homes are. I try not to judge my kid's freinds and to welcome them. They have made good choices in their freinds. They know that if there is ever a problem they can call me.

It sounds like your mother may equate meeting him with some sort of significant commitment on your part. I don't see it that way at all. That's way too late. How well someone interacts with your family, unless you have serious problems there, can be an indicator of what you may have in store with them.

I guess we have to agree to disagree here.

I am going to be 19 in a week and while I do live with my mother I don't have any "rules" to follow. Of course I value her opinion but I don't think she needs to know his whole family at least not yet. She will eventually meet him.
I don't think it is ever too late for them to meet.

[WildChild]

My daughter just turned 19 and she doesn't have any real "rules" to follow but it is our home and we all give each other a certain respect. When she started dating this young man at 15, things were, of course, different. But even today I would wonder if she had someone in her life that she didn't want to introduce to her family.