[mantula]

hi Im new to this! ok so there is this really hot guy in my local tesco that I fancy so much and I glance at him when im there and he seems to look too. thing is, I dont know him but would love to go out with him. is there any way I could get a date with him without being a creep?


thanks!

[sourpuss]

Sure! Next time you look at him, smile and say hello. Start a conversation. Then ask him if he'd like to go out for coffee or a drink sometime. The worst that can happen is he can say no, which, if he's single and interested as well, probably won't happen.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Agree with sourpuss.

I know that "we" think it's hard to "ask" but I did and 5 months later I couldn't be any happier, plus men love ascertive women... it means that they hold intelligence or something

You could do a movie scene though and drop something as you walk past him and see if he picks it up and create conversation

CW

[grrrr]

totally agree. I don't know why's it's still considered to be bad when a woman pursues a man.... I think that it's actually a GOOD thing - you know what you want and you go after it!

Worst case as Sourpuss said, he'll say no! Nothing ventured, nothing gained! And at least if you make the effort you won't have any regrets about not trying.

[kygirl]

Gonna jump on the bandwagon with everyone else... Guys do it, and maybe he's thinking the same thing...Give it a shot, say hello...if the conversation goes well ask him then or maybe he'll even end up asking you

[Tork1994]

I have the same question, in a way. I really like this guy in the same study hall as me and i AM WICKED SHY SO i HAVE THIS MENTAL "SQUEAL" of the breaks every time I wanna talk to him and my breathing stops for like a second and I can't stop thinking what would happen if I stopped acting like a wuss in front of him. I am open with my friends and things like that but when it gets down to guys I clam right up. any suggestions?

[jns]

Tork, maybe flirt with him, such as glancing at him a little too long. If he does not look at you, do it when his friends look at you. They probably will tell him. You can get rid of some of your shyness by flirting back and forth if he is too shy to start a conversation with you.

[Guest]

ok so there is this really hot guy in my local tesco that I fancy so much and I glance at him when im there and he seems to look too. thing is, I dont know him but would love to go out with him. is there any way I could get a date with him without being a creep?

Well let me ask you this: do you repeatedly look at men you have absolutely no interest in? Exactly.

The guy's shy. If that doesn't bother you, then either engage in conversation or give him a better opportunity to do so himself. So long as you don't appear needy, then I really don't see how you could come off as "a creep."

I know that "we" think it's hard to "ask" but I did and 5 months later I couldn't be any happier, plus men love ascertive women... it means that they hold intelligence or something

That hesitation always perplexed me; so long as at least minimal mutual interest has been established, there's almost no chance a man will reject a woman.

Obviously, if the guy doesn't know you exist, then his reaction could be negative. But unless you're quite the toad and/or a psycho, you're still highly unlikely to be rejected outright--usually it's the date that determines whether things will go further.

But yeah, generally a woman who acts first but who at the same time isn't needy will tend to impress most men (if they're shy it gives them an incredible ego boost).

I have the same question, in a way. I really like this guy in the same study hall as me and i AM WICKED SHY SO i HAVE THIS MENTAL "SQUEAL" of the breaks every time I wanna talk to him and my breathing stops for like a second and I can't stop thinking what would happen if I stopped acting like a wuss in front of him. I am open with my friends and things like that but when it gets down to guys I clam right up. any suggestions?

Yes, one: stop acting like a wuss. You have no reason to. If he's not interested you'll know it from the way he looks at you (or deliberately doesn't) and that means move on. If he is, well then you're pretty much the boss now as far a 'love' is concerned.

Actually here's another suggestion: get some guy friends (not all guys have to be bfs right?) and talk to guys whenever possible (start with asking male store clerks for advice and low-key things like that). Clearly you're too used to being social only with girls and it's limiting you.

[Tork1994]

thanks <3 i think i shall pursue this..... to a healthy level.
He has the dark hair blue eyes package that i just go GAGA over. It's really bad.

[Tork1994]

oh. did i mention that my study buddy likes to make me blush dynasty red so she writes his name on pieces of paper and shows them to me and i get beet red. And at one point he saw his name on the paper and he''s like : why is my name on the paper (he seemed smug) and my study hall teacher was like : maybe it's a different one.......? and I'm like : nice (lame) save. GAAAAAHHH! ever heard of the term fatal attraction?