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  • snuffie
    Member
    • Apr 2010
    • 79

    What is the one piece of advice...

    that you would give to another women or maybe a younger you about dating and relationships?
    "Eventually all the pieces fall into place...until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment and know that everything happens for a reason".
  • sourpuss
    Veteran Member
    • Dec 2006
    • 3581

    Be true to yourself, know exactly what you want and what you don't want and don't settle for anything less.
    That, and always be open to giving something a chance.

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    • SaharaJim
      Veteran Member
      • Jun 2010
      • 426

      EXACTLY. put it another way. Be willing to compromise on everything except yourself.

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      • LanaBear
        Veteran Member
        • Jul 2009
        • 8373

        Remember that you are still an individual and maintain that individuality. So often, when in new relationships, you want to be with the other person every single moment of the day, that you end up losing sight of yourself. Be sure to still do your own thing, be an individual, not just part of a couple.

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        • Hopeless Dork
          Veteran Member
          • Dec 2008
          • 4255

          *First and foremost... be yourself. Don't mold yourself into what you THINK they want. If you disagree, say so. If you don't like something they like THAT'S OKAY... you guys don't have to be the wonder twin couple wearing matching sweatsuits that share every tiny interest exactly the same way. Respect, embrace each others differences... be open to trying new things out but don't pretend to like food you hate, or shows you can't stand... etc. I don't mean be a spoiled sport... try those new things on for size... its learning and growing! But stay you, don't lose yourself. They are interested in you because of who you already are not because they want a robot that thinks exactly like them.

          *COMMUNICATE... tell them what you are thinking, what you are feeling, what you are hoping, what you are dreading. Don't stomp your feet and cross your arms when they do something you don't like.... tell them why it bothered you. Guys are not mind-readers, and chances are they want you to be happy. If they do something that makes you light up inside... tell them that too!! They can't learn you, learn what makes you tick if you don't share it. So share it.

          *Do not attempt to change a man. Love them , be interested in them... for who they are the day you meet them, chances are they will be that way always anyways. I know a lot of girls will see a guy and say hmm... he'd be perfect, if only he did this or that... and try to mold them. Don't take that route. One, you wouldn't want someone to do that to you and Two, its never going to work.

          *Let the relationship progress naturally, don't start planning your wedding and naming babies on the 3rd date. Enjoy the person you are dating for the time they are spending with you at that moment... get to know them, let them get to know you and always remember its the journey that matters, not the destination.

          *Don't play the silly games. Follow your instincts and your heart and do what you want to do.

          OPPS just read the title asking for 1 thing... math isn't my strong point i guess LOL either that or I'm just a motor mouth!
          Last edited by Hopeless Dork; 06-23-2010, 11:25 AM.
          Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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          • rcoreyus
            Veteran Member
            • Sep 2007
            • 4369

            Don't settle. There are a LOT of really nice people out there - don't get into a long term relationship thinking that you are "running out of time" or, "this is as good as I'll find".

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            • sourpuss
              Veteran Member
              • Dec 2006
              • 3581

              Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
              *Do not attempt to change a man. Love them , be interested in them... for who they are the day you meet them, chances are they will be that way always anyways. I know a lot of girls will see a guy and say hmm... he'd be perfect, if only he did this or that... and try to mold them. Don't take that route. One, you wouldn't want someone to do that to you and Two, its never going to work.
              This is super important! Also, don't let anyone try to change you. If you don't like on another as-is, then it's not a good fit.

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              • kygirl
                Veteran Member
                • Sep 2009
                • 1058

                Listen to your instincts. It's pretty easy to be know, early on in a relationship whether there are red flags or things that are dealbreakers. List to yourself and be aware of this so you don't stay in something that isn't good for you.
                If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it.
                -Andy Rooney


                It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.--Noel Coward

                Live your life and forget your age. --Norman Vincent Peale

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                • Jayla2251
                  Member
                  • Jun 2009
                  • 80

                  Dont rush into anything, take your time. Your young and you have a full life ahead.

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