At the end?
Hey there,
i want to kick myself in the shin for saying here a week or two ago that myself and OH have the perfect set up, bla bla. Because it has backfired in my face.
I posted a message on the mens boards to see if any male perhaps was giving insight maybe int OH mind but oh well ladies, help please.
Myself and OH have been together for about two and a half to three years, i lost count, i cant even remember when we hooked up, anyhoo.
We are pretty ok, he bounced back from losing a son in a previous relationship at six months from spina bifida, which is heartbreaking, he hasnt really dealt that well with it, but he is ok until he drinks too much, he doesnt talk about it, not even to me, he refuses and the baby died about ten years ago, well before US, when he lost his son he began gambling, and when he met me, it became quite a problem, great man in every way, but was never home, and always playing the poker machines, so he is battling a gambling addiciton, and we have gone from seven days down to two with the help of counselling and family. So we are at two days for about five weeks now, and he works for pittance from tues to sat. I get sunday with him, and so do the kids, one of those children is his. But he has bonded with all of them. And sits and chats away not a bother.
Now im gonna sound like a right moody moo here.
First of all the last week or so we have been under stress as OH, was wrongfully accused of domestic abuse, this has been dealt with. And no furthur problems should arise. He was mad at my son for a few days but has since sat and talked through their differences, great right?
So he is moody alllll the time, and i am one of those women that when she is in love, will do nearly anything to please her loved on, I am a honest one hundred percent dreamy romancer lol. Meave binchy romantic.
He is not a morning person, but on a sunday he sleeps in till like, 1pm in the afternoon, and i am frightened of waking him as he wakes in a foul mood if woken. And he can stay like this for a whole day, he has always been like this, but the fact i and the kids get no quality time, between football and sleep. I only get late evenings, as his work is from 9am to 10pm. Cash in hand under the table job. I never question his whereabouts and cheating isnt an option, i dont think he would.
Its almost like he lives a bachelor life here, and i simply pamper him, so i have stopped of late, as i am miffed and we argue nealy all the time the last few days which really isnt like us. Sure clear the air. but every five mins?
Lack of sex is a problem, i cant give it as i have been bleeding for a month or so. We cant even fool around as he gets mad if he cant errhem DO IT lol.
I have tried reasoning, but lately he is moody, uncooperative and i miss the man i knew. I have tried talking to him, but he is a mans man.
Where do i go from here, i cant bear the atmosphere, i was thinking of kicking him out for a month or so, for space. But i am worried it could make things worse.
help ladies xxx
thanksx
i want to kick myself in the shin for saying here a week or two ago that myself and OH have the perfect set up, bla bla. Because it has backfired in my face.
I posted a message on the mens boards to see if any male perhaps was giving insight maybe int OH mind but oh well ladies, help please.
Myself and OH have been together for about two and a half to three years, i lost count, i cant even remember when we hooked up, anyhoo.
We are pretty ok, he bounced back from losing a son in a previous relationship at six months from spina bifida, which is heartbreaking, he hasnt really dealt that well with it, but he is ok until he drinks too much, he doesnt talk about it, not even to me, he refuses and the baby died about ten years ago, well before US, when he lost his son he began gambling, and when he met me, it became quite a problem, great man in every way, but was never home, and always playing the poker machines, so he is battling a gambling addiciton, and we have gone from seven days down to two with the help of counselling and family. So we are at two days for about five weeks now, and he works for pittance from tues to sat. I get sunday with him, and so do the kids, one of those children is his. But he has bonded with all of them. And sits and chats away not a bother.
Now im gonna sound like a right moody moo here.
First of all the last week or so we have been under stress as OH, was wrongfully accused of domestic abuse, this has been dealt with. And no furthur problems should arise. He was mad at my son for a few days but has since sat and talked through their differences, great right?
So he is moody alllll the time, and i am one of those women that when she is in love, will do nearly anything to please her loved on, I am a honest one hundred percent dreamy romancer lol. Meave binchy romantic.
He is not a morning person, but on a sunday he sleeps in till like, 1pm in the afternoon, and i am frightened of waking him as he wakes in a foul mood if woken. And he can stay like this for a whole day, he has always been like this, but the fact i and the kids get no quality time, between football and sleep. I only get late evenings, as his work is from 9am to 10pm. Cash in hand under the table job. I never question his whereabouts and cheating isnt an option, i dont think he would.
Its almost like he lives a bachelor life here, and i simply pamper him, so i have stopped of late, as i am miffed and we argue nealy all the time the last few days which really isnt like us. Sure clear the air. but every five mins?
Lack of sex is a problem, i cant give it as i have been bleeding for a month or so. We cant even fool around as he gets mad if he cant errhem DO IT lol.
I have tried reasoning, but lately he is moody, uncooperative and i miss the man i knew. I have tried talking to him, but he is a mans man.
Where do i go from here, i cant bear the atmosphere, i was thinking of kicking him out for a month or so, for space. But i am worried it could make things worse.
help ladies xxx
thanksx
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