[LoveCatherine]

Hi, I am currently in a great loving relationship with a guy. Things are developing really well but I'm nervous about it all going wrong. I know you should enjoy it and go with the flow - I agree but
Every boyfriend I have had in the past have cheated or dumped me!! Not a nice feeling I'm not a bad person in any shape but I am lot older and wiser now and feel in the past I've maybe pressured them or something, to this day I can't understand the reasons why they cheated. Or why men cheat? I need to know how to avoid it happening again to me? As I say I'm a lot older now and I want a successful future with this guy.
Any advice or tips would help?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

No self worth.

Accepting all they do but not stand up to your rights, thoughts.

Non communication.

Being too giving and too forgiving.

Them knowing they can walk all over you...

CW

[Ashlee T.]

How long have you been in this current relationship?

[LoveCatherine]

Ten months.

[LoveCatherine]

He has just returned from guys only holiday. Ten of the guys went. I'm feeling insecure, the photos have girls on. Am I just being silly, should say anything to him? The photos seem harmless.

[kygirl]

LoveCatherine,

I think you should ask him if he had a good time and keep it at that. It comes down to trust sometimes. That is a very scary thought and sometimes you might get hurt if you trust people, but you can't assume that just because other people cheated that he will as well. I am firm believer that if you accuse someone enough, they will leave or just go ahead and do it if they are going to "pay for sins" they haven't even committed.

Obviously things are going well so far. 10 months is a good amount of time, but don't let your mind get the best of you!! You said that they all seem innocent. Go with that. I am not saying that you should ignore any signs to the contrary, but just let yourself be happy. Use what you've learned in the past....In my opinion, Communication is key... Talk to each other, be open about your thoughts, your plans, what you think is acceptable, what is not, etc. If you are open and honest, then you have a good foundation and also a good starting spot.

Pick your battles. Be kind, but honest. Remember what matters. Only let the past teach you, but don't let it rule you. You can't control his actions, but if you are both loving and open with each other, I think you could be on a good path.

Good luck