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  • WildChild
    Banned
    • Sep 2008
    • 14142

    It's a book about relationships and communication between the genders in relationships. Some people do go through periods of time when they do not have a committed relationship and have sexual interaction with more than one person. Personally I'm a serial monogamist, I prefer having sexual relations with only one man in my life at a time, as I like to real know them and have a deeper intimacy. I was just making the point that your situation would not be an issue for many women and if you learn to use your hands and tongue to good effect, you could be an exceptional lover. Many men never really acquire any real sexual skill with any part of their bodies and aren't good at emotional intimacy either. The women in their lives end up shutting down sexually or weren't really into it in the first place - not a good situation for anyone.

    You may have regarded your physical situation as a liability but you could turn it into an asset, with the right attitude.

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    • liminal
      Senior Member
      • Sep 2010
      • 189

      Originally posted by WildChild
      It's a book about relationships and communication between the genders in relationships. Some people do go through periods of time when they do not have a committed relationship and have sexual interaction with more than one person. Personally I'm a serial monogamist, I prefer having sexual relations with only one man in my life at a time, as I like to real know them and have a deeper intimacy. I was just making the point that your situation would not be an issue for many women and if you learn to use your hands and tongue to good effect, you could be an exceptional lover. Many men never really acquire any real sexual skill with any part of their bodies and aren't good at emotional intimacy either. The women in their lives end up shutting down sexually or weren't really into it in the first place - not a good situation for anyone.

      You may have regarded your physical situation as a liability but you could turn it into an asset, with the right attitude.
      This is really helpful information. Good to know.

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      • stressed
        Veteran Member
        • Jun 2009
        • 1914

        Originally posted by WildChild
        Some people do go through periods of time when they do not have a committed relationship and have sexual interaction with more than one person. Personally I'm a serial monogamist, I prefer having sexual relations with only one man in my life at a time, as I like to real know them and have a deeper intimacy. I was just making the point that your situation would not be an issue for many women and if you learn to use your hands and tongue to good effect, you could be an exceptional lover. Many men never really acquire any real sexual skill with any part of their bodies and aren't good at emotional intimacy either. The women in their lives end up shutting down sexually or weren't really into it in the first place - not a good situation for anyone.

        You may have regarded your physical situation as a liability but you could turn it into an asset, with the right attitude.
        I agree a lot with this. Penetration is not what makes good sex, even if like in WC's case there are women who prefer it. If you take a look at the percentages, most women have a great difficulty to reach an orgasm by penetration and do not find sex any less pleasuring without reaching a vaginal orgasm (I am one of those). You have your tongue, your hands, there are plenty of toys one can use on his partner, the list is endless. As long as you have the will to pleasure your partner in ways other than just by intercourse it will not be a problem. Like WC said, many men never learn how to pleasure their partner and many times that is so because they believe women only want intercourse, or should be satisfied by intercourse only, which is not true.

        A man eager to please his partner in every possible way other than by penetration beats the one who only offers penetration without eagerness, passion or intimacy. I believe that being with a man who feels more during intercourse, but doesn't have any passion, doesn't care about pleasing, doesn't want to explore sex, is a lot worse than being with a man who cannot have intercourse but wants, and does, please in so many other ways.

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        • liminal
          Senior Member
          • Sep 2010
          • 189

          So how what exactly should I say to somebody?

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          • Texinator
            Veteran Member
            • Sep 2009
            • 5556

            "I can't feel physical pleasure from penile stimulation."

            Technically, a woman can still enjoy your erection if she wants to. Another thing is that sexual interaction isn't limited to intercourse. You can still touch and kiss all over her body with your hands and mouth.

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            • brebee
              Member
              • Sep 2010
              • 12

              should be adressed not right away but before things get to serious. that way no ones time is wasted. and i agree change the wording. best of luck

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              • liminal
                Senior Member
                • Sep 2010
                • 189

                Originally posted by brebee
                should be adressed not right away but before things get to serious. that way no ones time is wasted. and i agree change the wording. best of luck
                Well, how soon do girls expect you to make a move on them? I know their is more than one answer. But I mean from the stand point of where it is clear that you are interested in a long term form of relationship?

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