[thats56]

I am very concerned

It was her idea. I didn't want to. Afterwards she said everything was fine. Us talking about it really helped. She admitted that before we start fooling around, she would think about how much it's going to hurt. Maybe now she realizes to relax, and not think about the potential pain. I think I wasn't using enough lube before. Never again.

[ManINeedACoffee]

I take it this isn't a very "serious" relationship. Otherwise you wouldn't be giving off the overwhelming impression that her main function in your life is for sex. This seems like a very "Yeah, but what's in it for ME?" attitude.

If that's the understanding between you two, then fine - go for it. If not, you're in for a rough ride. And not in a good way.

Bitter? Not in the least. Old? Not at all. Broad? Sure. But I'm a no-nonsense, no bull kind of broad.