Should I tell my friend guy I like him now or wait for the right time? I know he used to like me in high school, he told me himself. But I don't know if he's just trying to take it slow, or what. I'm worried though, that if we started dating there may be problems.We have different morals/beliefs, I believe that if you really care for someone you wait no matter if they want to wait til they're more comfortable, or til they get married. Since I've been a virgin so long its like I'm used to it, and its hard for me to just give it up. I value it and my body. I would like to wait til marriage. But, on the other hand, he believes that if a couple's been together a while, you should be willing to have sex. But he also told me not to do it unless I'm ready. I really don't know what to do. I never told him how I feel about that or about him, but I want to so bad. But I think its too soon, because we just recently reconnected with each other a week ago. After having a long term( 2 years)high school friendship. Even though in the past he was a really big player, he didn't and doesn't disrespect me. He only sees us as friends, when I know for sure he likes me. I want to tell him so badly how I feel. When is the best time to tell him? What should I say to him?
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Just express your love to him! It's now or never. Openly discuss every aspect of your relationship and I believe you would win him. -
And after a couple's been together a while, long enough to know he's worth losing your virginity to, I think it's long enough to know if you'd like to get married, and if he's not willing to marry you by that time, is he worth losing your virginity to?...he believes that if a couple's been together a while, you should be willing to have sex.
In no way do I believe in saving sex til marriage, but if you do, you need to stand up for what you believe.
I'd give it a little while. If it's only been a week, just let things move naturally. You want to make sure everything about him is the same from when you first knew him. People change, and you might not immediately see it. Make sure he hasn't. I think there are things you can do to show him how you feel, instead of coming right out and saying anything. Putting yourself in intimate situations will speak louder than words (at least, for right now). But being so early, I would advise you wait a little bit when you're not so overwhelmed by excitement of "falling in love".When is the best time to tell him?Last edited by Little_Miss_Me; 10-26-2010, 07:28 AM.Comment
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if it were me, because its only been a week or so...i would try to be professional about it, if that makes sense, dont seem too desperate or eager and confess and scare him away if he doesnt feel the same because u dont wanna lose your friendship. so test the waters with a conversation like, i really am happy we reconnected, i really enjoy spending time with you or you really know how to make me smile and laugh, something like a one liner like that and see what his response is..if he says "yeah, me too" or yeah i'd like to continue this...then you would know it was safe to tell him your crushin on him..but dont be in any rush, if you feel like he has mutual feelings then try to wait til he brings it up first, but if your unsure, then there is no harm in telling him how you feel, just dont be overbearingComment
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Thanks...but I already told him. He said in these exact words " me and that don't get alone too good, but I have been thinking." And today we were both talking to each other about our problems, we both really opened up especially him. Thats why I think if we were dating, it'll work out...Comment
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im a little confused...he said " me and that dont get ALONE or ALONG to good, but I have been thinking. " thats what he said when you told him you were into him?!Comment
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i dont really understand what that means, he doesnt agree with you having feelings for him?? and was has he been "thinking" about?Comment
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