[hizenberg]

i am so sick to death of hearing my friend brag and rave how **cool porn is. he is a little boy with no idea at all.
when i was growing up and had that sex talk with my mum, i was never taught to be *cool with my partner going off into his mancave for a pull over some who may have a slighltey firmer than me, but she definately hasnt got more brains than me! these 'poor' girls ,its sad these girls will do the movie knowing that possibley some gross balding,overwieght, greasy sweaty guy will be grunting and groaning and tugging furiousley at themselfs while thinking of his smelly gross body intwinded with hers...... mmmmmm is that going to make a woman feel sexy?
Since when and where did it suddenley be ok that men and women can go off and drool at somone elses body,gettoff then slime back onto the couch next to you and snuggle you n smile,all 'relieaved'???
I am ****ed how so many women say its ok and when it occurs to them its not throw the scum bags to the curb for another to sweep them up and realise how much of a deush bag they landed!!
My best friend is dating that type, he has a 3foot high stack of porn,mens ZOO magizines,more bikini mags with the odd car or motorbike magazine stashed right infront of the t.v. on the floor in clear sight and the most distastful coffee cup holders with boobs and 'butts on them, hes constantley telling me 'ohh wowww you got a greattt asss' and ' mmmmm, id tap that anyday'. hes a pig, but she just sits there all smug thinking .... god knows what shes thinking.She says shes ok with the porn watching,the mags and the constant sexual comments he makes to me and all the girls out there who are breathing.
his best mate is like a twin hes the same, he just got his dumped and cant get how????i have debated to them both the reasons on how 'uncool' it is and mind you they are both around 32.....i know DEUSH bags.
now this friend of his is saying he would never change his ways as he feels his ex was the one who made him like that,4 yrs she whistled,hooted and hmmm n ahhh also over women and not once admitted she was bi or actualley is for that fact, she just thought it was sexy n cool to be like that for her man.
Porn is helping to destruct already vunerable marriages and relationships out there, it is not cool or even ok if you ask me, i just cant understand how so many of us have come to be so ok with it and 'desensitzed' ya know??is IS IT SOCIETY OR MORALS THAT HAVE CHANGED US IN THE LAST TEN YEARS?????i am 24, and i dont know when this started to become accepting,or when the B.S. OF ADDICTION PROBLEM became a popular excuse. Any insight?? go nuts about your thoughts on this, i have lol.

[sourpuss]

They sound immature for their 30s. I don't think they are the norm though. There are plenty more guys out there who aren't like that.

[ItsASecret]

This is what want does to people. The porn actresses want their cocaine, want their rent money, want the attention of spreading for all to see...so they do whatever it takes even if it means putting dignity on the back burner. Then men and women want what they cannot have. Both sexes drool over porn, drool at the fact that this fantasy princess or prince is just so out of the ordinary that they really want that. Greasy guys wanking it to the thought of a barely legal platinum blonde treating them like a God is their dream, a fantasy and reality they know they cannot have but oh so want so so badly. It will not stop. There is a handful of guys (note my wording) that wish their SO was a spitting image of what they see online because well they like what they see and they did see it online so it "must be true of women" because it was right there in front of them. If women wanted to be like porn actresses they would need to develop a drug habit, possibly be so messed up in life that baring it all is the only way to get by, be so emotionally abused that the only attention they thrive on is that of spreading legs because people will actually pay attention for once, they would need to be pumped with silicone, not given much say in their daily activities, have their picture taken and be told "your pretty but we need to edit it to make you look better", get thrown around like a piece of meat for several hours a day with no say in whether or not it hurts, constant treatment for STDs and STIs, be starved to make sure they never hit an average weight. You know...be the opposite of the average woman.

[sourpuss]

Do you guys really think that men think like that? I've had some bad boyfriends in my life but never have I dated or been with someone who expected me to look like a porn star and I've never had a friend who's had that experience either.

[ItsASecret]

I think there are a handful of guys who think like that and may be the 'bad apples' of the bunch. All men though? of course not. There are too many men actually worth the time to be with rather than the men who do "act like pigs".

[Ashlee T.]

I think that alot of men who are into that won't necessarily TELL you they want you to look like a porn star. But after they've watched hundreds and hundreds of women that basically look and act the same, I think they'll just naturally compare us to those women, whether they intend to or not.

[Little_Miss_Me]

Meh, I don't see the big deal really. I read romance novels and watch romance movies hoping to find someone that will say everything I've ever wanted to hear, and do everything I've wanted them to do.

Men do the same thing, it just revolves around hoping to find someone that will say everything they've ever wanted to hear, and do everything they've wanted women to do... in bed. =P

[rcoreyus]

I don't think one can generalize about this topic.

Some men watch porn and want their SO's to be just like that. Some men watch porn as an entertainment, but know it isn't real.

Some men watch porn all the time, to the extent where it ruins their relationships, their jobs. Others watch occasionally when their SO's aren't available, or even with their SO's to add some spice to their sex lives.

Some men expect their SO's to be like porn stars, others want real people.

Some porn stars are in it only for the drugs and and hate their jobs. Others actively enjoy what they are doing and think it is a fine way to make money.

Some men are selfish in bed, expecting their SO's to do whatever they want in bed without doing anything in return. Some women are like that too.....

[stressed]

Well, I REALLY don't know anymore to be honest.

I'm personally back to watching porn myself since my dear SO gives me no other choice. Some times porn is just all you got.