[nubianqueen]

Im sure this question has been asked before, but......how does one get back on the dating scene again?? I know for a fact that i dont want a serious relationship right now, but I am ready to at least try to meet new people. And I have also realized that I am kind of scared of getting back out there again....scared of making a fool of myself, scared of getting hurt (one of the main reasons I dont want anything serious right now). any suggestions??

[SurferGal]

I'm going through this right now. Got my heart broken a month ago and I finally feel like I'm ready to at least MEET guys again. I know I don't want to jump into anything serious fast, but I do eventually want a commitment.

I suggest getting together with a couple girl friends and going out to your favorite place. Somewhere you are comfortable. If a guy chats you up, even if you are not 100% sure you are into him, just flirt....after all practice makes perfect, and flirting with a stranger can always boost your confidence.

From what I've learned in life, you never know who can be right for you. Let your friends know that you are ready to start putting yourself out there again, maybe they have a friend they can set you up with!

Good Luck!

[debbiemurphy]

Breaking up is hard to do, but it's healthy for people. Move on and things will get better! Someone better is out there. Remember that!
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[Ashlee T.]

I think you're at the point where you don't really need to "try" to get back out there. Just go with the flow. I, personally, wouldn't recommend dating sites or anything like that at this point....but that's just my opinion. I think now's some good "getting to know myself" time where you are alone, and okay with that. Do things with your girlfriends, go to a local coffee shop with a good book, take walks, join a gym, etc. All of those things get you out and about, but for YOU, not for purposes of looking for someone to date.

The thing about the good ones....is they tend to come along when you're not expecting it. I always say when you're lookin....you'll find something.....but it may not be what you really wanted. Go with the flow, enjoy who you are, enjoy your solitude, enjoy the freedom of crushing on ANYONE you want to, doing what you want when you want. The happiness and confidence generated from those things is definitely attractive to most men.

[nubianqueen]

I think you're at the point where you don't really need to "try" to get back out there. Just go with the flow. I, personally, wouldn't recommend dating sites or anything like that at this point....but that's just my opinion. I think now's some good "getting to know myself" time where you are alone, and okay with that. Do things with your girlfriends, go to a local coffee shop with a good book, take walks, join a gym, etc. All of those things get you out and about, but for YOU, not for purposes of looking for someone to date.

The thing about the good ones....is they tend to come along when you're not expecting it. I always say when you're lookin....you'll find something.....but it may not be what you really wanted. Go with the flow, enjoy who you are, enjoy your solitude, enjoy the freedom of crushing on ANYONE you want to, doing what you want when you want. The happiness and confidence generated from those things is definitely attractive to most men.

What you just stated makes a lot of sense! The thing is that people have told me that over and over again, but I guess I start feeling kind of funny when I see all my other friends spending time with their S.O, while I'm just alone on the couch watching TV at night, in search of something to do. I gotta admit though, I do absolutely love the fact that I can do what I want WHEN I want, without having to answer to or check-in with someone!! For the most part, I am okay with being alone, but I guess I just wanted tips on making new friends (especially male friends!). I do have a gym membership, I sometimes go to coffee shops, and occasionally do stuff with my bff's too. So, I suppose I just need to continue living my life and the men will come, huh??

[Ashlee T.]

So, I suppose I just need to continue living my life and the men will come, huh??

Absolutely! You hit the nail on the head. Live life, do things that make you happy, enjoy the simple pleasures, enjoy the freedom. Just be you.........and good things will come.