[mosbyrose]

i just broke up with a guy i dated for 2 months. in the beginning he was the one who was into me. then suddenly one fine day he comes and tells me its not working out. since then i have just been obsessed with him. i stalk him on facebook, i want to know where he is and with who. its just taking over my life.

the worst part is that he is in my college and is part of my group of friends. i need to stop doing this. we decided on being friends (his idea). i try to keep things normal but he is so cold to me. HELP!!!!

[Hopeless Dork]

Your behavior is a common one, I mean as far as not wanting someone until they don't want you. That isn't healthy. When the guy was all about you, you weren't all that interested... of course if someone knows you aren't into them they are going to move on. But now that he's moved on you are like hey, wait... is it the attention he gave you that you missed? Is it knowing you had someone out there into you that you miss? You have to think about why you want him so bad now, when you didn't before... because it doesn't sound like you were interested in him before... so is it just the challange you are after or did you just suddenly realize that you made a mistake in not being more into him? Its probably the former.

Its human nature to be a lil curious about what he may have moved on to... but its extremely unhealthy to actually try and find out, to keep tabs on him and follow his FB and basically stalk him, as you said. Putting so much focus on him is leaving you closed off to other people that may be more suited to you potentially enter your life.

He's probably cold to you as a defense mechanism to keep himself from catching feelings for you again as he knows or at least thinks thats not how you feel about him. Give him his space. He offered to be friends, leave it at that for a while. Be polite and cordial, but don't overstep and try to push the friendship into awkwardness. "lets just be friends' is usually... lets not hate each other... but it generally doesn't mean lets go hang out every day like best buds.

For most people they need a little distance from a relationship that ended before their feelings settle down and they can be anything close to friends without any resentment or romantic notions. Try to focus on yourself and what you want in this life in the same way you were doing before he told you it wasn't working out. Busy yourself with other things and don't follow up on what he is doing any more. You don't want to be that person.

[mosbyrose]

i was into him

i did like him a lot and i was totally into him. he made me happy and thats what i miss. and i miss knowing that there is someone out there for me. we went out almost every day when we were dating and there is not one place in this city that i havent been to with him. he was good company and he told me i am too. we used to have so much fun spending quality time together. and since we had so much fun in my mind i thought it might culminate into something else.

i used to tell him everyday how much i like him and how happy he makes me and he said he feels the same. i think i am doing all this stalking business because he never gave me a reason why he broke up with him one fine day.

[mosbyrose]

and i see him everyday in college.... we are civilized to each other but things are not the same. he is a part of my group of friends. we agreed on being friends but i dont think thats working out. he is right there in front of my eyes everyday. we still have to go out together sometimes with our friends and its really awkward. im so confused about this. i dont know what to do.

[Pau]

I think he just wants to be friends with you and nothing else.
I understand how you feel it's sometimes confusing, but if he already confessed to you then I think it's better that you should also do something for yourself and not only depend on him

Who knows if he sees you that it seems you're doing fine, he might come back