[JessicaJene]

boys will be boys you cannot control them

[jns]

No, its actually not normal behavior for guys. Not the part about coming and telling his gf that his friend said she had a hot behind. I love it when my boyfriend tells me I have a hot butt, or my butt looks great in those pants etc..or when he will joke that he can't stop staring at my boobs or something. I don't find that objectifying... because he's my boyfriend, and i love him.... and I know he loves me for me. He also tells me how funny I am and how pretty I am, and all of it makes me feel good.

He also respects women in general. I can't imagine him sitting around letting his friends rate my body parts, but even if it turned out to be that guys don't mind hearing that another guy likes their chicks camel toe, or her butt, or her leggs or whatever -- he could rephrase them when reporting that compliment back to her, like pretzel said.

The other day me and my boyfriend went to a party and he told me afterwards... that I was his hot date , that his friends kept complimenting him on how pretty I looked. I have no idea if anyone said anything and he just said that to be sweet... or if someone said something raunchy and he just changed the wording -- but the fact that he relayed that compliment to me in a way that made me feel good about myself is what I love about him.

A guy that is SO excited that his friends think your butt is hot, enough to tell you so -- is pretty immature. What if his friends said 'dang your girl has a hot butt... but what happened to her boobs???' Surely a guy immature enough to tell another 'man'... that he likes his gfs butt cheeks would probably critisize her as well. And while a guy may find that acceptable in general locker room talk -- to critique females they knows bodies -- gfs are usually off limits from that.. its a respect thing.

"My friends are so jealous -- they said you look amazing!" is a whole lot different than..."my friend thought you had a nice rack."

Women love compliments, heck men love compliments... people love to feel good about themselves... but most people like to feel like there is more to them than any one part and to have a body part be the only thing nice someone had to say about someone... shows where their heads at.

A good treatise on how gentlemen act different than boys. Good work, HD.