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Hi everyone. Thank you for all of the responses. He is college-aged, so not the age differences aren't huge, but I still find it disgusting. And CW, he apparently was logging into his account and she saw him type is password.

Here's an update though:

I called Kay a few times, trying to talk about it, but she never picked up. When I finally texted to say that I was going to the police, and she immediately called me back. She begged me not to, and I told her that it was wrong. She said that she knew, and that they broke up, but that she was a Christian woman and believed in forgiveness. He's living with his parents right now, and they apparently are restricting any computer privileges, and after the holidays he is going to a psychologist. He admitted to her that he needed help, and that he was going to get it to improve himself. She said that she (despite the fact that they are not together) is going with him to make sure he goes.

Despite all this, I still wanted to call the police, but she pleaded with me to wait. She said that if he didn't go to counseling, she'd even go to the station with me. After a while I hesitantly agreed, but it's tearing me up inside.

Her father was just diagnosed with cancer for a third time, and she's going through a lot right now. She said that this all was even making her feel suicidal, and that she just couldn't stand seeing someone go to jail when they could get help. It's so hard for me though, because I *have* been sexually abused, and sitting here while John isn't being taught a lesson is just killing me.

So, even though I promised not to go just yet, I'm very conflicted.

Thank you again to everyone who responded. Your posts are what concreted in me that it was really wrong - by everyone's standards. I hope John is actually going to get help, and not BS about it.

forgiveness is great and all...but what happened was a CRIME.

forgiveness doesn't mean that you don't call the cops when someone is committing serious felonies.

she can forgive him for what he did to HER, but what about those girls?

people like this are repeat offenders...the going to the shrink and staying with family are all just a ploy to evade the radar...a few months later the buster will back to his old ways.

call the cops BEFORE A GIRL GETS MORE THAN JUST A PICTURE OF HIS DONG.

[jns]

Absolutlely this info can be recovered - even after being deleted (excpetion is a GOVERNMENT SECURITY WIPE).

Actually, if you want to throw gobs of money at it and employ super mathematicians, even that may not be good enough. The question is: have you done micro adjustment of the heads to make sure you have overwritten the overwrite areas on both sides of the heads. if not, it is possible to recover data from these areas. Has anyone got conclusive information about governments using scanning transmission electron microscopes to recover data for espionage?

[Colorado]

That is true jns - just not well known.

[Alexandra]

~*~ UPDATE ~*~

This should be my final update. A lot happened after that. Kay decided to stay with him as he got "help" from a therapist. I tried again with the police, but I needed her to back me up too. I guess they thought I was a jealous best friend or something, even though I recovered some screen shots. Anyway, I went to her and said, "what he did was a crime, and there has to be measures put in place to make sure it doesn't happen again. He's going to hurt innocent little girls." She said she didn't want to talk about it. This happened a few times, and finally I lost it and said, "You're either going to take this seriously, or this friendship is over. You're letting him hurt young girls and you're treating me badly." She proceeded to call me a horrible, unsupportive friend, and that I obviously didn't understand true love or forgiveness. She even made references about me going to (word edited out) because I didn't love people the way "God" intends for us to. She said that it was probably the high schooler's fault anyway, because she was "obviously a (crude word here), or she wouldn't have talked to him". She then proceeded to take me off Facebook, block me, and tell all of her other friends what a horrible person I was. I haven't talked to her since.

A month later she texted me saying she'd broken up with him, and two weeks later she asked if I was okay. I'm sorry, I don't care if you're stressed: I think that was a pretty awful bit of stuff to say. I gave up with the police, as it's obvious she won't back me up, and getting her to try led to it blowing up in my face. But yeah. That was the end of that, I suppose. I lost a friend to a pedophile. Definitely not my best six months. :/

[jns]

You did your best and even though you are no longer friends, you tried. Hold your head high.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It depends on how deep the friendship origionally was.

People put walls up, block what they know, try to "save" others... But, eventually find the truth and realise.

However, a real friend? I do not think would ever stoop to call you names, talk behind your back....let's just say she is an aquaintance. You can count your true friends on one hand in your whole life time ..


CW