[*snowgirl*]

Hi
A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend dumped me, saying he had realised that he didn't have feelings for me anymore more than he would for a friend. He said he no longer looked forward to seeing me or talking to me anymore... he seemed really upset as he said it all and when I asked why he said he didn't want to hurt me. But only a week and a half earlier we had an amazing day celebrating our 6 months and he seemed happy but he says his feelings faded only the day after this. I'm really confused and I don't understand, I still love him, I just want him back and happy again. What do I do, if I need to get over him how do I do it?
*snowgirl*

[WildChild]

Time will help. Keep busy. Get out with friends, start a new hobby.

[*snowgirl*]

so you don't think he's just going through a funny phase then since it happened so quickly?

Plus I'll have to see him all the time in a few weeks time I just don't see how my feelings will fade

[LanaBear]

Even if he is going through a funny phase, there is nothing you can do about it. If he doesn't want to be with you, you have no choice but to go about your own business and try to occupy yourself with friends or a new hobby.

Don't live your future with the hope that he MAY come back, it's unhealthy. Just leave him be and get working on yourself.

[*snowgirl*]

Ok that's harsh but I know it's true and you are right!

He said in time he wants to be friends and I really want that too if I can get over it all.

I don't know when this would be healthy, or how close a friendship we could have, what would you say? In the mean time he keeps sitting in front of me in lectures and it's likely we'll have to work together at some point

[LanaBear]

With as strong as your feelings for him appear to be... I don't think being friends for a good long while would be all that healthy. That is a good way to just continue having your heart broken. Maybe once you both have moved on, more specifically when you have moved on from this relationship, then MAYBE friends can be an option.

I know being around him all the time will make things more difficult, so you are really going to have to make a concerted effort to get past this point. You don't want to forget the relationship, remember it for what it was, one of many stepping stones in your life. There is and always will be someone out there who can and would lovingly return all the love you give them in a relationship.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Your sixth month anniversary was amazing, why? Run us through it...

It could be that he's not ready for something serious yet in his life...

CW

[*snowgirl*]

It had seemed to be we had a nice meal out and spent the whole evening together, it would have been the whole day but we were both busy. It was the first time he stayed with me for a couple of weeks as he had been ill, he said how much he'd missed me and we both said how happy we made each other. The next day I caused a disagreement as I was so happy I wanted to spend more time with him and know when... but due to his busy training schedule he didn't know when this would be. He said this is when he realised I wasn't top of his priorities but I don't really believe it as I knew he was making an effort. So I can't help thinking that it's my fault and if I hadn't caused the disagreement everything would have been fine. What is your opinion?

[*snowgirl*]

He had also said a few months ago that he thought he was commitment phobic but when I asked what about he said he didn't know

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well that pretty much was what I was thinking...

Your relationship, on your side, is strong, happy your okay with the minimal time you both spend together, mainly because you have no choice However, he's happy to have a girlfriend, but definately wants a lot of space and freedom...not ready for a relationship...

You didn't cause this, you took it rightly so to the next level, but he isn't ready for another level, and so, he chose not to have a relationship with you....

It's nothing you did..... He'd be happy with here and there.... You deserve a proper relationship....

CW