[jessgomez28]

Hello, im a 29 yr old women and am dating a 20yr old.
We've been together for 2 yrs now. We are very happy and so are my 2 children. They love him to death. We get along well and love each other's company. What im worried about or scard of is that if we stay together for a while will he become bord or say he turns 30 and im 39 will he all of a sudden want sumone younger?? he says he loves older women and always have before me. and he looks like he's my age lol. im just worried. Is it me worring over nothing?

[pretzel]

Hello, im a 29 yr old women and am dating a 20yr old.
We've been together for 2 yrs now. We are very happy and so are my 2 children. They love him to death. We get along well and love each other's company. What im worried about or scard of is that if we stay together for a while will he become bord or say he turns 30 and im 39 will he all of a sudden want sumone younger?? he says he loves older women and always have before me. and he looks like he's my age lol. im just worried. Is it me worring over nothing?

yes.

Can you guarantee you won't get bored with him?

In ten years, 39 is still very young and vibrant.

[jessgomez28]

your right!!! that's a good question! thanks i feel a whole lot better

[Mighty Grasshopper]

don't know if I could agree or say for certain. Anything can happen in a year or two or five years. At the age of 20 to 28 a person does much growing in terms of career, pleasures, family goals, personal goals etc. Not to say that he will get bored or want someone younger but perhaps his lifestyle might change and his goals might change (eg travel Europe or start a business or move for work or find a new religion etc etc). He IS young and to say without a doubt that things are going to stay the same is a bit unrealistic.

Does that mean you should break up? Up to you. Or you could live in the moment and enjoy the time together and see where life takes you. If you are constantly worried over this then you should take some time to consider what you want out of this and be truthful to yourself good or bad.

[Guest]

Yes, it's you worrying over nothing....

Don't worry about things you can't control and you certainly have no control over what might happen ten years from now.

LOVE is a wonderful thing!

[WildChild]

I would think that the bigger question is if you will stay interested in him. He is young enough that in many ways his adult persona and characture are not fully developed. Most 20 yr olds have still got a lot of growing up to do. But each person is different and if this is working for you, just enjoy it. There are no guarantees in relationships.

[stressed]

I'd say it must have been more difficult (at least in theory) when he was 18 and you 27, than him being 20 now and you 29. As for worrying, it depends on what. Even if he wants his own family with you in 10 years he can still have it.

As for age difference itself, I say it's better to spend as much time as you can with someone who makes you happy for as long as it lasts (and it might last longer than you think), than "assume" it will all be great 20 years later just because of no particular age difference being a concern, only to find yourself divorced in 5 years.

In other words: As long as you are both happy with what you have now, don't let 'future' get in the way of this. Like pretzel said, nobody can guarantee anything regarding the future. Age difference should not be a concern unless one of the two feels it is.

[jessgomez28]

thanks for all of the great replies. I feel so much better.