I’ve been with this guy for almost 2 months now. He’s only my second boyfriend. This is around the time I broke up with my first boyfriend. If I’m being totally honest, my first boyfriend was more an experiment gone wrong and we never should’ve been together. So this new guy I’m with really feels more like my first “real” boyfriend.
Anyway, I can’t seem to stop stressing over the fact that, even though he’s amazing and I like him so much, we’re not exactly where I want us to be…or really anywhere near it. I mean I want to spend literally every second of every day with him and I think about him all the time, but I’m not so sure he’s like that. He’s very attentive. He asks me to hang out/texts me, etc. He’s very good to me. Always picks me up at my house/pays for me when we go out (I feel bad so I sometimes pay too)/respects me. But there’s a lot I don’t like. Like the fact that, although he declared us a real couple once, he’s never, ever, everrr used the term girlfriend to refer to me. And once he was on the phone with his grandfather who lives with his family and he said “I’m at the mall” and then a beat later “my friend”, clearly answering his grandfather’s “who are you with?”
I think I like him way more than he likes me, and that terrifies me. I try my best not to ask him to hang out and wait for him to ask me. I try not to constantly text him. I just don’t want to seem too clingy because I know that’ll send him running. I want to give this time thought because it’s still so early in the relationship! I know that eventually either we’ll grow close or he’ll still keep his distance and we’ll have to end it, but I can’t not stress out over all this right now. I just need to be with him all the time and I don’t think he’s there yet, don’t know if he ever will be. He’s very introverted. Doesn’t open up a lot. He likes to keep to himself. That’s just the way he is.
Sorry, I’m not so much asking for advice as I am venting. Sometimes it feels good to just type this all out on the internet.
Anyway, I can’t seem to stop stressing over the fact that, even though he’s amazing and I like him so much, we’re not exactly where I want us to be…or really anywhere near it. I mean I want to spend literally every second of every day with him and I think about him all the time, but I’m not so sure he’s like that. He’s very attentive. He asks me to hang out/texts me, etc. He’s very good to me. Always picks me up at my house/pays for me when we go out (I feel bad so I sometimes pay too)/respects me. But there’s a lot I don’t like. Like the fact that, although he declared us a real couple once, he’s never, ever, everrr used the term girlfriend to refer to me. And once he was on the phone with his grandfather who lives with his family and he said “I’m at the mall” and then a beat later “my friend”, clearly answering his grandfather’s “who are you with?”
I think I like him way more than he likes me, and that terrifies me. I try my best not to ask him to hang out and wait for him to ask me. I try not to constantly text him. I just don’t want to seem too clingy because I know that’ll send him running. I want to give this time thought because it’s still so early in the relationship! I know that eventually either we’ll grow close or he’ll still keep his distance and we’ll have to end it, but I can’t not stress out over all this right now. I just need to be with him all the time and I don’t think he’s there yet, don’t know if he ever will be. He’s very introverted. Doesn’t open up a lot. He likes to keep to himself. That’s just the way he is.
Sorry, I’m not so much asking for advice as I am venting. Sometimes it feels good to just type this all out on the internet.
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