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  • fiestypunkgirl
    Member
    • Oct 2010
    • 24

    who has it harder...

    ...in the dating world: men or women?


    Clearly its tough for guys because they typically are expected to initiate conversations, ask for numbers, (which puts them in a position of possible rejection) show interest...but not too much so shes not creeped out, impress her on dates, etc.

    On the other hand...

    Its tough for women too. Because we have to play the game. and thats really hard to do sometimes! (maybe more so for some rather than others :-P) We have to wait to be "chosen". If we dont, they lose interest because that makes it too easy to "catch" us. We cant make ourselves too available, we have to keep them interested, remain aloof (or act like it), etc. Its difficult in different ways, in my opinion. but which is harder?

    What do you think? Why?
    [FONT="Trebuchet MS"][FONT="Verdana"][COLOR="darkgreen"]"Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Because those who mind dont matter, and those who matter dont mind"
    ~ Dr. Suess[/COLOR][/FONT][/FONT]
  • jns
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    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    It is hard on both because a person who is serious has to open themselves up a little, no matter what sex or what role.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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    • Texinator
      Veteran Member
      • Sep 2009
      • 5556

      Originally posted by fiestypunkgirl
      Its tough for women too. Because we have to play the game. and thats really hard to do sometimes! (maybe more so for some rather than others :-P) We have to wait to be "chosen". If we dont, they lose interest because that makes it too easy to "catch" us. We cant make ourselves too available, we have to keep them interested, remain aloof (or act like it), etc. Its difficult in different ways, in my opinion. but which is harder?
      If a guy needs you to play hard to get to remain interested, then he's not really interested in you in particular in the first place, he's just interested in "the chase." If two people honestly like each other, they should just get together and there is no need for any games to be involved.

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