Boyfriend problems. It's long, but I'd very much so appreciate any advice. Thanks!
Today, I was on my boyfriend's laptop. I aimed to hit ctrl-D to favorite a page, but instead hit ctrl-F and brought up his history. Like anybody would in this situation, I snooped, but without the intention of finding anything bad or risque.. just looking.
On page one of his history, I saw where he'd been going through somebody's Facebook profile pictures -- every single one. I clicked on that link to see who it was, and it was some girl that neither of us know. Of course, my initial thought was something to the extent of 'what the ?' so I went to page two. It turned out that he seemingly regularly finds girls on Facebook and looks at all of their pictures, and had some activity that I couldn't see with a girl who he's recently had to buddy up with in his Spanish class.
Anyway, a few more pages over, I saw that he'd been on Photobucket and gone through a TON of pictures, including those of a bunch of almost-naked girls or girls whose cleavage was clogging the camera. My heart dropped. I'm not perfect by any means -- I'm 5'3'' on a good day, am on birth control which has caused me to gain 30 pounds (I began BC at 120 and am now at 150, sadly), and I don't wear a lot of makeup. We've been together for about a year and he regularly tells me how pretty I am and things like that, but it's hard for me to believe that anyway because I've got a scarred up nasal region and a crooked nose caused by an accident two years ago.
We used to talk about not being able to wait to get our own place together after this year, about getting married eventually, and other lovey-dovey things. I don't know if the novelty's worn off, but now he is very hesitant -- he talks about wanting to wait for all that now, and gets squirmy when it comes up. But anyway, back to my original point: he came over to me a little bit in the middle of my continued snoop and asked if I'd been on his history. I told him yes, and he claimed that he clicks on Photobucket's recent images and looks at funny things and will sometimes go to the image owner's profile. That's a lie, though, because his history showed where he'd clicked on the pictures of all these girls, and none of the images were 'funnies'.
I don't know what to do in this situation. Do I bring it up with him? Do I let it go? I'm thankful for anything you have to throw at me.
On page one of his history, I saw where he'd been going through somebody's Facebook profile pictures -- every single one. I clicked on that link to see who it was, and it was some girl that neither of us know. Of course, my initial thought was something to the extent of 'what the ?' so I went to page two. It turned out that he seemingly regularly finds girls on Facebook and looks at all of their pictures, and had some activity that I couldn't see with a girl who he's recently had to buddy up with in his Spanish class.
Anyway, a few more pages over, I saw that he'd been on Photobucket and gone through a TON of pictures, including those of a bunch of almost-naked girls or girls whose cleavage was clogging the camera. My heart dropped. I'm not perfect by any means -- I'm 5'3'' on a good day, am on birth control which has caused me to gain 30 pounds (I began BC at 120 and am now at 150, sadly), and I don't wear a lot of makeup. We've been together for about a year and he regularly tells me how pretty I am and things like that, but it's hard for me to believe that anyway because I've got a scarred up nasal region and a crooked nose caused by an accident two years ago.
We used to talk about not being able to wait to get our own place together after this year, about getting married eventually, and other lovey-dovey things. I don't know if the novelty's worn off, but now he is very hesitant -- he talks about wanting to wait for all that now, and gets squirmy when it comes up. But anyway, back to my original point: he came over to me a little bit in the middle of my continued snoop and asked if I'd been on his history. I told him yes, and he claimed that he clicks on Photobucket's recent images and looks at funny things and will sometimes go to the image owner's profile. That's a lie, though, because his history showed where he'd clicked on the pictures of all these girls, and none of the images were 'funnies'.
I don't know what to do in this situation. Do I bring it up with him? Do I let it go? I'm thankful for anything you have to throw at me.
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