[Amber]

When you hear the saying opposites attracts, do they mean your interest also? I was ready to end it with this guy after two dates because I'm realizing we have nothing in common. He likes Sci-fi movies, I like action or mystery. I like watching sports, he does not. I like to read, he doesn't. I like jazz and blues. He likes country. I play board games with friends, he doesn't. I can't be too active because of a bad knee so I tend to do a lot of non-physical stuff like this.

I can still walk for a few hours a day to look around the city which we both like but that doesn't happen in the winter.

When I pointed it out to him that we have nothing really in common, he said he would watch sports. Coming from a guy who walked out of the place watching his team during the Superbowl. His brother had a fit when he did so. lol He said he is willing to watch sports or listen to my type of music. I told him I could try some of his stuff also. After all, I found my love of blues and jazz from my ex.

Does this really work? I wonder. And I can't help but wonder why he wanted to continue when we had nothing in common. Was it because he thought I'm pretty and he thinks the sex will be great? Oh news flash. Wait until he realize he is going to need to wait a bit until I get really comfortable before we hit the bedroom!! Or is it really my personality that he likes? I know personality is a big thing for me in a guy but is it really that much for a guy? I would like to say yes but I wonder sometimes.

I like the guy so far but not insanely crazy. But then it has only been two dates and I guess there will be a third. I wonder come football season if he will even be around.

[Amber]

I just saw that my team's football training camp is right around the corner. I feel like it would be a sacrifice for him to go. I kind of wonder why he would want another date if we have nothing in common. I'm pretty new at relationships so maybe his thinking it different than me. But after only the second date? I definitely know this is not a relationship yet but it is something if things go well, it would eventually lead to.

[EveryonesSister]

Opposites do attract but there has to be some equal likes too to balance it. he probably finds you interesting and nice to be around. Just go on a few more dates and hang with him a little. Try to show some interest for his things and he'll try to show interest in yours in return and see where it goes. It may end but then again it may grow, who knows. But don't cut it off too quickly give it a chance. Dating is about learning each other, so get to that learning girl!

[Hugo-B]

People of equal financial status and social standing seem to gravitate towards each other, the exception usually being when an extremely attractive woman meets a wealthy, and typically older man. In this sense, I would say no, opposites don't attract. I think compatibility, in its many various sizes, shapes and forms is what attracts.

[Little]

I feel like there is a deeper compatibility than shared interests that people should be looking for in their dates, though if you're trying to establish a friendship first, they can certainly help.
Realistically, he isn't going to be reading books over your shoulder, even if he were into reading. That's a solo activity. In many ways, so is listening to music. And personally, I have a high tolerance level for uninteresting things on television or at the movies, so that's not a big deal to me either (probably because I'm busy reading, hah.)
What about intellectual interests? Do you have similar political opinions? Religious opinions? Is he into science, history, psychology ... the kinds of subjects you can really get into a good conversation about? How much time do you expect to spend with a person you're dating or a boyfriend ... and are his needs similar? How social is he, does he have a group of friends like yours to spend part of his time with while you're spending time with yours?
You don't have to answer those here, they're just to think about. You're worrying about the most superficial of interests, and maybe ignoring some more complicated ones and deeper compatibility. Dig a little deeper, enjoy his flexibility, and flex a little yourself.

[ItsASecret]

I think you need to have some level of similar interests because everything cannot be complete polar opposites. You need to agree on things in order to even get along. I believe that balance can also occur in a relationship, one partner may be rambunctious and loud and the other may be sweet and quiet and that quiet person says that the loud one should keep calm a bit more often and it can honestly help from things getting out of control...that sort of balance between two people. You certainly do not need to have everything the same though, there needs to be some yes and no to things so that each individual can go off and do their own thing should they need to.

[jns]

A dynamic that seems to be common in long term relationships is laughter. Can he make you laugh and can he laugh at himself? Can you make him laugh and can you laugh at yourself (I think you can laugh at yourself from insight gained from your previous posts)? Being able to laugh together can help smooth over the differences you two have.

[cat_like_reflexes]

birds of a feather is more likely, true opposites aren't likely to be attracted or last long. Sometimes there is one thing that draws two people so strongly though that it may break all the rules.

[Amber]

I decided to give this guy another try. We are going out again on Sunday. We made this decision over the phone last night.

The thing is he said he would call my tonight. We talked last night. And I have an appointment tonight so I can't talk tonight. I didn't tell him this next part but to be honest, I don't want to talk to him every night this week until Sunday. I can easily wait until Sunday to see him. I have another things I would rather be doing.

I enjoy being with him. We can easily joke around but sometimes I think I may have exhausted most topics last week. I don't know if I could come up with enough topics to even talk to him on the phone the entire week. But maybe I could. Who knows.

The thing especially is, I enjoyed being with him but I'm not jumping in my shoes to see him. At least not as he is. Is that a sign that this will not work? At date three should I be at the point that I'm dying to see him? And if not then that is not a good sign? Or is he being a little unrealistic here?

[jns]

Sometimes things start out lukewarm and start to get to a slow simmer later. Don't worry about it too much just now. There are no guarantees in life or at the beginning of relationships. Just take it slow and see where it leads you. My answer would be different if you didn't enjoy being with him or if there wasn't some humor between the two of you.