Hi Everyone,
An attractive woman in her late 20's (i'm in my early 30s) recently moved into my apartment complex. About a week after she moved in I stopped by her apt and introduced myself. We talked for about 10 min and she suggested we grab a drink some time next week. About 4 days later we went out after work and ended up grabbing a drink and some food in the neighborhood. The conversation flowed well on both sides and we were two hours into the date before we knew it. We drove back to the apt. and I asked her to come up to my apt (we had joked about my interior design style/taste during dinner so it was natural to ask her to check out my apt). She came up and immediately sat down on my couch. I asked her if she wanted some wine and she said yes. For the next two hours we both sat on the couch, talked to each other about a variety of different topics (travel, her tastes in design - she's an interior designer, family, etc.). Her body language was positive - she was always turning and facing me while on the couch.
After two hours (which flew by), I asked her what she was up to this weekend and I suggested we check out the local farmer's market on Saturday afternoon (she had mentioned earlier in the evening that she loved to cook). I suggested we have a little contest in which we each have only $20 to pick out ingredients to make a meal and we'd see who could come up with the most creative design. She said yes to this idea and we made plans to meet up at 4pm.
At this point I gave her a hug goodbye and she left.
A day later I texted her something playful like "I thought I heard pots and pans banging around your apt last night. you weren't practicing for saturday were you?". Unfortunately, I didn't get a response from this text.
Two days later (saturday), I texted her about an hour before our scheduled meet up time to see if we were still on. She texted back, "Sorry, I'll have to take a raincheck. I need to help out a friend with something". I texted back, "Need some more time to practice before the big cook off? No problem...." She didn't respond.
About a week later I sent her a short text about a TV show episode that we both liked and had discussed at dinner. She responded back with a brief, joking acknowledgment, but the conversation died there. Another week has gone by and we haven't seen or texted each other.
I'm interested in this girl and I thought we had a really good night out together. I'm bummed and confused on why she flaked. What do you think is my best next move (potential thoughts - should I text her again, wait to bump into her in the apt complex, etc.)?? My intentions are to get to know her better and see where things could go. That being said, I'm usually not a fan of "chasing girls", especially ones that flake out. Any suggestions and thoughts would be much appreciated!!!
An attractive woman in her late 20's (i'm in my early 30s) recently moved into my apartment complex. About a week after she moved in I stopped by her apt and introduced myself. We talked for about 10 min and she suggested we grab a drink some time next week. About 4 days later we went out after work and ended up grabbing a drink and some food in the neighborhood. The conversation flowed well on both sides and we were two hours into the date before we knew it. We drove back to the apt. and I asked her to come up to my apt (we had joked about my interior design style/taste during dinner so it was natural to ask her to check out my apt). She came up and immediately sat down on my couch. I asked her if she wanted some wine and she said yes. For the next two hours we both sat on the couch, talked to each other about a variety of different topics (travel, her tastes in design - she's an interior designer, family, etc.). Her body language was positive - she was always turning and facing me while on the couch.
After two hours (which flew by), I asked her what she was up to this weekend and I suggested we check out the local farmer's market on Saturday afternoon (she had mentioned earlier in the evening that she loved to cook). I suggested we have a little contest in which we each have only $20 to pick out ingredients to make a meal and we'd see who could come up with the most creative design. She said yes to this idea and we made plans to meet up at 4pm.
At this point I gave her a hug goodbye and she left.
A day later I texted her something playful like "I thought I heard pots and pans banging around your apt last night. you weren't practicing for saturday were you?". Unfortunately, I didn't get a response from this text.
Two days later (saturday), I texted her about an hour before our scheduled meet up time to see if we were still on. She texted back, "Sorry, I'll have to take a raincheck. I need to help out a friend with something". I texted back, "Need some more time to practice before the big cook off? No problem...." She didn't respond.
About a week later I sent her a short text about a TV show episode that we both liked and had discussed at dinner. She responded back with a brief, joking acknowledgment, but the conversation died there. Another week has gone by and we haven't seen or texted each other.
I'm interested in this girl and I thought we had a really good night out together. I'm bummed and confused on why she flaked. What do you think is my best next move (potential thoughts - should I text her again, wait to bump into her in the apt complex, etc.)?? My intentions are to get to know her better and see where things could go. That being said, I'm usually not a fan of "chasing girls", especially ones that flake out. Any suggestions and thoughts would be much appreciated!!!
From what I hear she isn't turned off by you but perhaps for some reason or other she is confused. Perhaps she is afraid of developing a relationship or is seeing other people until she is sure? 
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