[MandaFayeee]

My bf of over 2 years goes through these random times where he pushes me away when I want to have sex. Not literally, but makes excuses. That's the only time he ever shows me affection so I always want it. He's been weird lately. I've been finding out that he watches porn alot, porn that I couldn't even imagine he would be into: huge black c********k, brutal porn, shemale-mostly large penis porn tho. He now knows that I know and changed his email password so I cannot check his google web history =\ The last 2-3 nights I tell him I want some "lovins", like we call it. He goes on and on about how he isn't feeling well, yada yada. So he goes to school, comes home for lunch, I leave for a half hour and come back. He's in a rush to get back to school and leaves his phone. I check his history...porn...Later tonight I say hey, I made you the muffins you wanted, blah blah, lovins tonight? He said, what do you not understand about being sick? I told him I saw the porn and now feel insecure since he'll play with himself even tho he is "so sick", but not touch me. He just says, wow-I'n going to sleep. I don't understand. It's never really bothered me before, but the types of porn he's looking at and now not wanting to touch me but touch himself? Today he was looking at ebony porn, and not trying to offend anyone, but he claims he isn't into interracial sex...Pleaseee help me.

[DemoCommando]

Manda,

What kind of porn he is looking at is not the issue here; Porn is fantasy, not reality. The issue is that he is addicted to porn, like so many other men these days.
You need to sit down with him and tell him Your feelings. If he does not care, does not listen or does not follow up, it might be time to move on. Your feelings are just as important as his, but don't let him squirm out of this. If he is not intimate with You, then there may be an underlying problem between you two; or he is addicted to porn.

-Demo

[Pollon]

Agreed. If this isn't straight addiction, it is disrespectful to you, women and your relationship. If he won't even offer to try and quit, you will be dealing with this for years. You could tell him that you will give him until the lease runs out to get off the porn. If he can't, you will no longer be together.

Good luck