[angel_90]

I started seeing this a man one week ago and I think he's great. Caring, sweet, interesting and we have great chemistry. There's just one problem. He wants to spend WAY too much time together. For starters, we work together so I see him every workday (although we work in different divisions, so we only really see each other in passing a few times a day) and even then, he texts me several times a day. But then in this first week alone, we've been out together 5 times. And I'm not just talking a quiet lunch in the park either, all of our dates have been several hours and there have been a few late nights too so I'm EXHAUSTED.

Everything else is just fine with us (in fact,it's great!), so I don't want to end things, but I am going to have a chat with him to talk about spending a bit less time together. Maybe 2 dates a week and mostly in weekends? Do you think I'm being reasonable, or will he think I'm pushing him away?

[Guest]

OMG...totally reasonable...What you/he have been doing is smothering each other...over the top! I get it, first week of a brand new romance...lots of excitement, etc. but every day for hours on end? yikes!

Catch your breath...tell him to catch his and that you don't want to ruin a good thing before it even starts...

S-l-o-w d-o-w-n.

IF he thinks you're pushing him away, he's either A)too clingy for you, and/or B)not the right guy for you.

I guess you'll know more after you talk with him.

Let us know how it goes.

[Little]

It could just be that you want different things from a relationship - you need interaction way less frequently than he does.

But it could also be nerves, excitement, insecurity, anything really. A second vote for a calm talk over here - you never know until you ask

[Pollon]

Of course it is reasonable. You have a life and, hopefully, he has one too. If he doesn't, he's looking for you to give him one. That's too much to be burdened with.

If he panics when you ask for some space, he's too needy. Run away. If he says, "I'm sorry, I totally understand, I'm just excited. Putting some limits is probably good." He might be a keeper.

Good luck

[lovexlaugh]

Try planning some dates yourself. At the end of the Wednesday date for example, say, "I've had a great time, would you like to have lunch with me at the park on Saturday?" Take control of the situation

[jns]

In the infatuation stage, wanting to be together all of the time is common. He is infatuated and this is his response. Slow him down a bit so things are comfortable for you.