[BlackOrchid]

Hello,

A while ago I met a guy online .. And we talked we had lots in common we both r artists and we both r gamers we enjoy almost the same things, he asked me to be his gf and I agreed since I enjoy talking to him and I'm starting to like him a lot, it wasn't just an online thing .. I cud tell it wud be more
So after like 1day he asked for phonesex .. And I didn't agree
I was molested when I was young and I hate sex and phonesex wudnt make me like it .. I told him I don't want to and he said that I lied and I don't like him or want him .. I told him about my past and he said its oki .. I should just try it with him .. And I don't want to .. I'd be happy to try if he was really here .. But I can't seen to get it through his skull coz he will say that I didn't like him .. And he is really pushy .. What should I do ? To stop him from phonesex ..? He keeps telling me that he loves me .. And its my fault for being cute coz it turns him on all the time ..

[Claret]

BlackOrchid you don't say how old (or young) you are. It seems as if you may be young. However, it is NOT a good idea to #1 be his girlfriend solely based upon what you've know about him, on-line, and for a short period of time, and #2 it is NOT a good idea to have phonesex with this same individual unless and until you know him very very well. It is a short step from having phone sex to having a web-cam and performing sex for him on-line. Any person that doesn't respect you saying NO is not worth your time or energy. He should want to get to know you and want to know what would make you happy in your life. If you have the phone sex it will only be a one-sided thing, he'll be happy -- you won't be happy. He is trying to make you feel guilty by saying you don't like him and that he loves you.
Where are you located? Where does he live? You don't have to answer those just think about the logistics of things. Will you ever be able to meet in person? If not, then I'd suggest you find someone closer to be girlfriend/boyfriend with.
What should you do? You should just say goodbye.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Just to add.

If someone makes you feel awkward, un-comfortable over and over is pushy, uses the L word to try to gain something....

Would you like that person as a boyfriend?

Have a think...

[Pollon]

I think this guy is probably lying to you about who he is and his interests. It is pretty easy to pretend you are interested in the same things. That he has moved quickly to asking for sex and that he is manipulating you (making you prove you love him by having sex) are pretty good indications that he is a predator only interested in one thing.

Have you got any evidence that he is who he says he is? Do you know his real name? Ask him to send a scan of his driver's license or school ID. I'll bet he'll either disappear or make excuses as to why he can't.

Please be careful

[amy37]

BlackOrchid

When it comes to sex or even phoen sex a gentleman will never pressure a lady. He sound's very manipulative by telling you he loves you in order to get sex. Honestly he doesn't sound like a good guy.

Take your time healing from your past, and don't be pressured into something you don't want to do, you deserve someone who will be honestly interested in your healing rather than phone sex.

[Trisha23]

Oh, that guy seems to be just taking advantage of you. A guy like that isn't worth trusting.