[Kellybrits]

I need help my boyfriend says I'm to clingy and he gave me one last chance I always want to talk to him and be with him and when he wants to be with his friends I moan and get upset and when he does stuff with his friends I always ask questions and tell him what not to do... He loves to smoke w****d but I really don't like it I ask him not to and he says you let me smoke w****d becz that's me .... I also don't have much friends becz I never make time to see anyone becz I always want to be with my boyfriend if I'm not with him I'm always on my bed .....I need help I don't want to lose him?

[Pollon]

Your boyfriend has a life a that he enjoys apart from you. There is nothing wrong with that and he doesn't appreciate that you try to control that part of his life. It seems that you have expectations about how your boyfriend should behave and are trying to make this boy fit those expectations. Save yourself and him some headaches and either accept him as he is or find a boyfriend that meets those expectation.

If you decide to stay with him, then build up the part of your life that doesn't involve him. Find some friends and hobbies to keep you busy.

[Kellybrits]

Thank you .. I will try that I also get really mad when he is with his friend and his friends sister is there becz she likes him and then I always kak him out and tell him not to go...I get jealous if he talks to other girls becz then I feel like he likes them and that they are prettier than me help plz

[jns]

You don't have to put up with stuff he is doing that you don't like. Your strongest option is to leave. He won't be happy with you being controlling and you won't be happy with his actions. If you find the right person, you won't have to change them very much because you'll both be compatible right away.

[Emswifty]

Hi Kelly,
You really need to think if staying with him is for the best. Yes, leaving would hurt but it may very well be worth it. You know what you want (and there is nothing unreasonable about what you want) and you should find a guy that wants the same things. You deserve that and to be treated well.
Keep us posted and I hope it works out.

[Pollon]

Kellybrits,

You need to be more honest with your feelings. You don't get mad or jealous because he is with his friends and talks to other girls, you get SCARED that he will like them better and leave you. He is right, you are very clingy and need constant reassurance that he cares for you and that you are pretty and loveable.

Until you gain some confidence in yourself, you are not ready to be in any relationship. Please spend some time figuring out who you are and what makes you an attractive person. Your boyfriend was obviously interested in you at some point enough to choose you over other girls. What did he see in you? If you can remember that, you might be able to calm your fears.

Good luck