[MrMillion]

when i got divorced, i started dating again over online dating.

[Needytoo]

A few weeks back I went out with an old friend. She got married a few years ago for the first time at the age of 50. She met her husband on POF. I was a little afraid of these free sites but since I haven't gotten a match on eharmony in weeks I thought I would give it a try. I wasn't even finished my profile and I already had 7 messages in my inbox. Wow there are some "winners" out there. But I did find someone that at least appears normal. Problem is, he has been separated from his wife for two years. What are the rules when it comes to dating someone that is separated?

[avgmale]

I think you should think less in rules and more in what feels comfortable for you. The don't respond within 24h is more of a concept then it is a rule, after all, who is interested in someone who's always there and ready to answer. Often at the beginning there can be some 'game' elements as probably described in the book but whats the most important thing is that you feel comfortable while doing it.

edit; A short profile is usually a set up for a lot of short messages. Work a joke in there and maybe a witty and charming man will be able to work with it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It's more of whether he has a lot of baggage to contend with that would not allow him to move on, as far as separation is concerned.

I've been separated for 5 years (there is a reason) and will go down the path shortly now of Divorce, but I am also Engaged now, met my partner 3 and a half years ago and neither of us had too much baggage at all, when we met, he had only been separated for 9 months.

It's a matter of whether this guy is ready or not to start again....