[Something_Awesome]

The only thing I am wondering, is he not afraid of your brother if he screws you over? If my friend screwed over my sister, in that his intentions weren't genuine, I'd take it further than just not being friends with him anymore.

Is he not afraid of that? That thought should help keep him in check; to only pursue you if the feeling is real. I don't know any guys that woukd "play" their best friend's sister.

[jasminerose08]

Love comes from the most unexpected places and comes the least you expected it. I remember the song ' When did you fall in love with me" . This song is very appropriate to you..I feel so excited about you. The song goes like this "When did you fall in love with me? Is it out of the blue, I swear I never knew...very good love song...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

" I've always wanted to be in a relationship with you "

" What's up? Yeah Ok".

I'd be confused if I were you as well. You know what? Don't text again, don't beat yourself up either on that, as Jen stated but actually walk away from this for a bit. I think, now, it's his turn.. He made that above comment, you stated you wanted to speak with him, if a guy really wanted to be in a relationship with someone and had the opportunity to talk, he'd make the time and a suggested time and day.

By not texting him you will see if days go by or a day goes by before he actually tries to contact you and then you'll know what to do, I think.

Ahhhh....this is almost getting to be too much. I think I am so nervous because I am overanalysing
every detail.

To continue on with this bad habit I will tell you that I texted him. Here is what that looked like:

Me: Hey, I need to talk to you.
Him: (10 hours later, I am assuming after he got off work) Okay, whatsup?
Me: I'm at work now, but its not urgent or anything. Just maybe next time I see you? Its really not a text kind of conversation.
Him: Okay.

And that's it! Just three words I got out of him! It discourages me because I feel like hes not interested. I feel like he knows what this is about but isn't trying to show interest. He doesn't seem curious or eager or even happy to hear from me. I feel like I made a mistake in even texting him at all. I feel like my emotions are stupid. They aren't making sense. The whole situation seems ridiculous now and I feel like maybe I should just drop it.

[DreamP346]

When I first started reading your story, it sounded romantic and like the plot line to a romance movie (that movie Something Borrowed or Made of Honor). But reading your most recent entries, I am starting to think Jen is right. If this was really important to him, he would have asked to talk about this right away and discuss things, not leave it to you to bring up. It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.

Definitely have a conversation with him. Tell him that you are not interested in being his thing on the side. Also tell him that things just feel too weird between you two so to stay away from each other for a while and definitely not be hanging out with him with his girlfriend. If he really wants a relationship with you, he will offer to leave his current girlfriend. If he doesn't, then you have an answer.

[jen1447]

You may be overanalyzing a bit hon, yes, but your emotions are what they are, no point in self-criticizing. I still kind of feel like this is ....what I expected lol. If you get the vibe that he's baiting you or leading you on or playing you, I wouldn't bite. People who do that generally have an exploitative agenda in mind (like he'll ignore you in order to get you to throw yourself at him, then bang you, then walk away all proud of himself for scoring the hot chick). If he doesn't want to talk, let him not talk. Be the stronger one and let him come running to you if he wants. Otherwise no big loss.

[ThisOneThought]

Ahhhh....this is almost getting to be too much. I think I am so nervous because I am overanalysing
every detail.

To continue on with this bad habit I will tell you that I texted him. Here is what that looked like:

Me: Hey, I need to talk to you.
Him: (10 hours later, I am assuming after he got off work) Okay, whatsup?
Me: I'm at work now, but its not urgent or anything. Just maybe next time I see you? Its really not a text kind of conversation.
Him: Okay.

And that's it! Just three words I got out of him! It discourages me because I feel like hes not interested. I feel like he knows what this is about but isn't trying to show interest. He doesn't seem curious or eager or even happy to hear from me. I feel like I made a mistake in even texting him at all. I feel like my emotions are stupid. They aren't making sense. The whole situation seems ridiculous now and I feel like maybe I should just drop it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

He didn't get your message but when he did he asked if he could buy you breakfast, that to me, leads to conversation when two people are alone. He could have just told you he crashed, didn't get the message and left it at that.

Though, I too don't like the part where he stated "he would have, had he had read the text" a "gentleman" ditches the girl first, even if you would only be cuddling.

He told me at that point that he has wanted to be in a relationship with me for a long time. I was like, "Shhhh!! Your gf can probably hear you!" He said he didn't care

This sounds promising but as you have never had sex before, I would definitely be cautious if he does leave this current relationship for you, you want to make sure it's not because he doesn't really care about this girl at all and has always wanted to sleep with you.

But, on the plus side, as we can all make assumptions, it doesn't appear he entered this relationship in love, he entered it just because. (This girl he is with).

I told him I wanted to spend time with him but I didn't feel like it was right, and he said we were friends, it was okay

This part I don't again like, because he is using the fact that she knows you are friends, therefore, if you were to hang out together it's no big deal. But, it is, because he is suggesting to go behind her back.. He needs to be a man about all of this. On the devil's advocate part, he may be just trying to establish exactly what you want, hoping it's a relationship as he's already stated he has always wanted to be in one with you and the only way he can find that out, is if the pair of you meet up.

I texted him this morning after everyone of my friends told me to tell him how I feel. I just told him I needed to talk to him.

I am betting that either your Brother has already told him or one of your friends has already told him of your feelings. Just a gut feeling.

Go ahead and tell him. And, if he feels the same like he has insinuated, let him know that you won't be secretly doing anything, that he has to get out of his current relationship and that you further want to take it slowly, date properly for a while without (sex). To be sure that is his pure intention, that he really has wanted to be in a relationship with you.

Good luck and be assertive it's a bit like Romeo and Juliet Here is hoping that that is what it is...

But by stating and acting on the above 2nd to last paragraph you will know for sure as well.

[jen1447]

I hate to be a party pooper but I don't like the sound of this. He sounds seedy, tbh. If he's willing to say he doesn't care about his current GF while feeling you up and kissing on you, you can bet he'll do the same when/if you're on the other end (when his next potential GF is on the couch while you're sick in bed or whatever). Also the "wanted to be in a relationship with me for a long time" line sounds like just that, a line. My fear is that if you got into a serious relationship with this guy (at the expense of his current GF), you'd find it was a lot more brief and temporary than you envisioned.

[ThisOneThought]

Okay, here's an update. I don't really know what to think of all this so I will definitely need advice! Here is a run down of what happened last weekend between us:

Last Thursday, he came over to my place with his gf and her friend to hang out with me and my brother. She had to leave early to take her friend home and he said he was going to stay and crash in my bro's room (at my place). I went to bed and invited him by text message to sleep in my room with me. (I didn't want to say it out loud in front of my bro lol). He ended up not getting the text until morning, but after receiving it, he came to my room and asked me if he could buy me breakfast. I was embarrassed that I even asked him and felt bad bc of his gf, so I declined breakfast.

Later that night, I went to hang out with him and his gf at his place. He and I went to the store alone and I apologized for inviting him to my room, saying I shouldn't have put him in that position and I feel bad that I did that to his gf. He reached over from his seat and touched the inside of my thigh, telling me not to worry about it, that he would've taken me up on the offer if he had seen the message. When we got back to his place, there was some drinking going on, and his gf got really drunk and wasted. While she was in the other room, he and I were literally like magnets to each other. He kept touching me, and I admitted to being attracted to him. He tried to kiss me but I backed away and I told him I could not do that to his gf, that I didn't want to be that kind of person, I didn't want to have that character flaw. He told me at that point that he has wanted to be in a relationship with me for a long time. I was like, "Shhhh!! Your gf can probably hear you!" He said he didn't care. I wrapped my arms around his waist but as soon as we started hugging and getting close his gf came in the room. She was so wasted she did not even hear what was said or notice the behavior between he and I.

The next night I called him on the phone and was trying to tell him my feelings but I was pretty much beating around the bush. I told him I wanted to spend time with him but I didn't feel like it was right, and he said we were friends, it was okay. Then he asked me, "What are you really trying to say?" I just said I didn't know and that it was probably a pointless conversation anyway and then I got off the phone.

We haven't spoken since but I cannot get him off my mind. I think about him constantly.
And by the way, he is 24 and I am 25. His gf is 18. Not that any of that matters but someone who had commented had asked about age.

I texted him this morning after everyone of my friends told me to tell him how I feel. I just told him I needed to talk to him. I'm hoping maybe we can get together face to face, alone, soon.

Soo.....what do you all think?! I am super nervous!

[robinerikson]

I smiled when I read the part that your brother got offended because you used him as an excuse. Girl, I might sound so evil, that girl with YOUR guy should be eliminated as soon as possible. Haha!