Maybe a year after his divorce, some months before he met me, he hooked up with a long-time friend. They weren't ever a couple, more like FWB. After he met me, he cut off contact with her. He told me about her and why he didn't think they could be friends anymore.
So around the time I start giving him more space, the old FWB starts pressuring him to meet for coffee and catch up. They hang out and watch movies a few times. I express my concern, but my BF says I have nothing to worry about. So I trust him. During this time, he has a lot of stress at work getting ready for a big event, and I don't see him much. A week after the event is over, he's still a little distant, but then things quickly return to normal. It's better than ever. The old FWB isn't ever mentioned again, and I notice after checking Facebook that he's unfriended her.
And then I did something wrong. I snooped. What I found was that he'd cheated on me, beyond shadow of a doubt. They had been sending sexy messages back and forth, and a couple messages confirmed that they'd slept together. Immediately following these messages, there's nothing for several days, and the next one is her asking to talk "one last time." She asked to meet for coffee a couple times also, all with no responses from him. Her last message was over a month ago.
So I now find myself with the problem of knowing my boyfriend cheated and didn't confess. I also now have to confess to snooping. I just don't know how to handle this. To me it seems like he made his choice in pushing her back out of his life, but I can't know she won't ever try to come back.
There's also a sub-issue of my car getting keyed three times in the past month, and I can't help but wonder if she did it.
My intention is to work through this, not break up. Please help...
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