[keasrt]

I've been dating a this guys for about 1 year. He is evertything I ever wanted in a man. I can totally see myself with him forever. The only problem is that he is an "amputee devotee" for those of you that don't know what that means,here is the scoop. Those type of man are attracted to amputee. Weird, uh...well as a Doctor friend explained it to me is just a preference...just like some of us prefer tall, blonds, etc. he prefers amputees.... The problems is that i'm not an amputee. I just found out about this. I've tried to move on one million times but everytime I do he does something to show his affection towards me and reels me back. I'm so comfused, I want to believe that he'll eventually get over it... but i dont' know.. what do you think... has this ever happend to anyone??? please help.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

I'm really sorry, I'm having difficulty stopping myself from laughing (and it's bizzarely timed as I mentioned this in a thread not two days ago). However, I'm sure it can be a very hurtful situation...

My jokey/fun making answer would be "do you love this man more than you love one of your legs?" but obviously that's only a joke, please don't be offended.


Ok, so first off, how do you know that this is his preference, and how severe of a preference is it? Basically all men prefer slim women to fat women, and yet there are many fat women happily married to slim men. Looks aren't everything... Likewise girls whose 'type' is long hair and wind up with a shaven guy... etc etc etc etc. In fact there are even gay guys in heterosexual marriages!

How strong is this preference? If he marries you will he be scouring the internet to find some amputees? or is it just a relatively passing fantasy? Maybe you could strap one of your legs up backwards and hobble in wearing crutches and try and get it out of his system..

I guess the only REAL answer is to have a serious and frank discussion with him. Don't attack him, as he will become unresponsive, just discuss it. Don't judge him, cast aspersions or whatever.

I'd probably say though - that's a bit funked up... Best to move on.

[keasrt]

I'ts silly i know....

well, thats the thing...I do think that if we eventually would get married he WOULD be all over the internet talking to amputees etc. I think more than an attraction is a part of him. He has actually already dated 5 diff amputee women...So eventually I think she wants to end up with one. He told me this is something he's dealt with since he was a kid. I dont' judge him I just regret that when I came to find out about this I was tooo emotionally involved to just walk away, and ofcourse I have that little thread of hope that he'll realize that our relationship is more important than that "attraction" and will get over it...but that prob wont happen I just never dealt w/ anything like this before. I don't even know what to think. One thing is fo sho...i'm not gonna play any dress up like an amputee games with him just to make him happy...lol

[commonsense]

amputee lover

well, thats the thing...I do think that if we eventually would get married he WOULD be all over the internet talking to amputees etc. I think more than an attraction is a part of him. He has actually already dated 5 diff amputee women...So eventually I think she wants to end up with one. He told me this is something he's dealt with since he was a kid. I dont' judge him I just regret that when I came to find out about this I was tooo emotionally involved to just walk away, and ofcourse I have that little thread of hope that he'll realize that our relationship is more important than that "attraction" and will get over it...but that prob wont happen I just never dealt w/ anything like this before. I don't even know what to think. One thing is fo sho...i'm not gonna play any dress up like an amputee games with him just to make him happy...lol

If he's been dating you for a year there must be something he really likes about YOU. Why don't you ask him why he has been dating you instead of a amputee. See where you stand. Hopefully, he's not dating you just until an amputee he "really likes" comes along and will dump you. Before you invest anymore into this relationship, you need to see if he sees you as someone he would like to spend the rest of his life with.

[commonsense]

I'm really sorry, I'm having difficulty stopping myself from laughing (and it's bizzarely timed as I mentioned this in a thread not two days ago). However, I'm sure it can be a very hurtful situation...

My jokey/fun making answer would be "do you love this man more than you love one of your legs?" but obviously that's only a joke, please don't be offended.


Ok, so first off, how do you know that this is his preference, and how severe of a preference is it? Basically all men prefer slim women to fat women, and yet there are many fat women happily married to slim men. Looks aren't everything... Likewise girls whose 'type' is long hair and wind up with a shaven guy... etc etc etc etc. In fact there are even gay guys in heterosexual marriages!

How strong is this preference? If he marries you will he be scouring the internet to find some amputees? or is it just a relatively passing fantasy? Maybe you could strap one of your legs up backwards and hobble in wearing crutches and try and get it out of his system..

I guess the only REAL answer is to have a serious and frank discussion with him. Don't attack him, as he will become unresponsive, just discuss it. Don't judge him, cast aspersions or whatever.

I'd probably say though - that's a bit funked up... Best to move on.

Not all men prefer slim women. There's different strokes for different folks. Like a prefer a heavier built man instead of a slim one.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Not all men prefer slim women. There's different strokes for different folks. Like a prefer a heavier built man instead of a slim one.

Whatever, some men prefer women with no arms or legs and some men prefer women with penises. The FACT is, that MOST men prefer slim women. Full stop.

[ChelseaRenee]

Whatever, some men prefer women with no arms or legs and some men prefer women with penises. The FACT is, that MOST men prefer slim women. Full stop.

There is no such thing as a woman with a penis. And you have no idea what all men prefer, because you don't know all men, nor is there an average. God forbid someone disagree with you. Because apparently then, they're wrong, "full stop".

[Little]

There is no such thing as a woman with a penis.

Ever heard of a transvestite?
Quit *****ing at each other. Follow your own advice; don't pay attention to the people who tick you off.
Spring makes folks antsy ...

[ChelseaRenee]

Ever heard of a transvestite?
Quit *****ing at each other. Follow your own advice; don't pay attention to the people who tick you off.
Spring makes folks antsy ...

A transvestite is a man who dresses as a woman-not a woman. And I'm done posting on here. I'm tired of people getting off on power trips about a little website. I'll stay out of discussions from now on because apparently no matter what I, you're not going to like it, and I really don't see why you've singled me out to attack me. I haven't said anything half as offensive as some other people around here. But I guess I'm wrong about that, too.

[Little]

I'll take the blame; I wasn't thinking when I said transVESTite ... I should've paid attention to that Latin root. What is it you call a person with a woman's body and a penis? Popularly, a transvestite, but as you pointed out, that's wrong.
I don't know why you've singled out Anon to attack. You give **** good advice when you can stand to leave him alone; you said yourself you don't want to talk to him.

OP: I think you have to decide how much you can take of this fetish your man has. Some people with fetishes are really out in left field and some just like to think about it. It's all a question of perception; yours AND his.