The drinking & lying are both big issues in my mind.
Sure at your ages, the drinking may decrease as he gets a little older, but it may increase as well. We don't know. I think the fact that he can't say no to alcohol & he drinks until there's nothing else available, are alarming and I'm not sure that is due to age. That sounds like a problem with alcohol. Drinking until you don't remember things, the fact that you say 90% of your fights are because of drinking, all these things are horrible indicators of an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. How often does he do this?
It really is a gamble you're taking, to see if he comes through this phase with a healthy relationship with alcohol. My bet would be he doesn't. I know lots of college kids, and just beyond that age, who can drink socially, but responsibly, and still have a great time.
The lying sounds like a problem too. The fact that he can lie daily, basically living a lie with his housemates. The fact that he withheld the truth from you for 2 years - something that had to do WITH YOUR OWN BODY! for crying out loud! If he doesn't respect you enough to share that info with you, that affected you both, what kind of integrity & honesty do you ever expect this man to have? What a lousy thing to do to someone you're in a relationship with. Sure, he asked about the contraception, but why not just say, "Oh, well, the condom kind of failed, just so you know"...or something equally lame to share the pertinent info.
And by this time, y'all had been together only 6 months. Point is, you had a reason to know that, and a right to know it. He disregarded you.
One thing you can trust, is that this man will lie in any instance to protect himself, or provide gain for himself, even if it could potentially be harmful for you, and even if you have a right to know! He's dishonest, he's lacking integrity & character.
Personally, I would be running away. I have higher standards & expectations of a man in my company on a regular basis, and these behaviors would never make it.
Sure at your ages, the drinking may decrease as he gets a little older, but it may increase as well. We don't know. I think the fact that he can't say no to alcohol & he drinks until there's nothing else available, are alarming and I'm not sure that is due to age. That sounds like a problem with alcohol. Drinking until you don't remember things, the fact that you say 90% of your fights are because of drinking, all these things are horrible indicators of an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. How often does he do this?
It really is a gamble you're taking, to see if he comes through this phase with a healthy relationship with alcohol. My bet would be he doesn't. I know lots of college kids, and just beyond that age, who can drink socially, but responsibly, and still have a great time.
The lying sounds like a problem too. The fact that he can lie daily, basically living a lie with his housemates. The fact that he withheld the truth from you for 2 years - something that had to do WITH YOUR OWN BODY! for crying out loud! If he doesn't respect you enough to share that info with you, that affected you both, what kind of integrity & honesty do you ever expect this man to have? What a lousy thing to do to someone you're in a relationship with. Sure, he asked about the contraception, but why not just say, "Oh, well, the condom kind of failed, just so you know"...or something equally lame to share the pertinent info.
And by this time, y'all had been together only 6 months. Point is, you had a reason to know that, and a right to know it. He disregarded you.
One thing you can trust, is that this man will lie in any instance to protect himself, or provide gain for himself, even if it could potentially be harmful for you, and even if you have a right to know! He's dishonest, he's lacking integrity & character.
Personally, I would be running away. I have higher standards & expectations of a man in my company on a regular basis, and these behaviors would never make it.
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