[atskitty2]

He wasn't kidding when he said it the last time. I got the impression he really didn't quite get the distinction. I guess the reason I'd even probed into the discussion was because I'd had some other questions come up...things that just gave me pause, no flashing red lights. He strikes me as very lonely, and has since the first night we met-so I do think a big part of it is just that. But still there's just something that makes me wonder.

[Baboy]

Hard to tell from a few texts, which no doubt are presented here in edited form. If the discussion had been face-to-face, much more would be revealed from tone, body language, etc.

The yellow flag for me is simply the use of the word "stalker". Does anyone really want a stalker in their life? It smacks of the psychologically unhealthy, the criminal and the dangerous. But perhaps in dashing off a text without giving it deep thought, it was simply a poor choice of words and not too much should be read into it.

I can understand wanting to be the object of another's desire, but not when that desire turns to obsession and a smothering kind of wanting.

So, at this stage, perhaps no cause for alarm, but worthy of some circumspection until more of this person is revealed.

[atskitty2]

I think that was my idea Baboy. Its just something to consider as I go on...if I go on.

I did paraphrase the msgs.

[Popcorn&Candy]

I don't see the funny side of his "kidding" about having a stalker. Where is the humour in that? If you're seeing yellow flags now, imagine how you'll be worrying later down the line. Your instincts are telling you to not trust him: trust YOUR instincts. If you can't be comfortable and secure with him now, I don't see how you're going to feel as time moves on. It would be far better to end things now: before you get hurt. This sounds odd, but I don't trust him. I may be wrong, but all the signals are there.

[amy40]

kitty,
let us know what happens with your date this week
good luck

[atskitty2]

I haven't heard from him in a few days, so maybe that's off the table.