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  • atskitty2
    Assistant Admin
    • Aug 2013
    • 4467

    Men also seek out women with money. If all was equal, as in the original question, men also would likely choose a woman (or man) of means.

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    • Texasred
      Veteran Member
      • Oct 2009
      • 1216

      I am sure there are some that do, but I'd say they are the exception. Most men are much more shallow than that - we go for the woman who looks the best!
      :-))

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      • jns
        Assistant Admin
        • Mar 2010
        • 8398

        I guess I don't fit the category. I grew up poor with both of my parents coming from poor families. I have much more affinity to women from poor families than women from even modest means. Rich, I don't have anything in common with. A rich wife who could lord over me if she was so inclined, would never be my choice. I can understand a poor woman wanting more in life and looking for a husband with a good job. I would choose her over a middle class woman, all else being equal. In whatever case, I would expect the children to be instilled to love to learn and to get ahead.
        I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
        ...
        Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

        From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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        • atskitty2
          Assistant Admin
          • Aug 2013
          • 4467

          I think it is more among younger generations.

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          • jns
            Assistant Admin
            • Mar 2010
            • 8398

            Originally posted by Texasred
            Most men are much more shallow than that - we go for the woman who looks the best!
            :-))
            Most maybe, but not all. I prefer women who look good but am not stuck on looking the best. In general I would say personality is more of a factor for me in a long term relationship. Looks may be OK for something short term.
            I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
            ...
            Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

            From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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            • Popcorn&Candy
              Veteran Member
              • Jun 2016
              • 1713

              I am not a greedy person, but would probably date a rich man. This is hard to believe, but I wouldn't want his money. I would like the fact he was intelligent, creative, talented, confident, brave: the list goes on. Now there are many people with little or no money who are also these things. But money does attract me. Still, personality is more important than a man's bank account. I can understand the allure of wealth, however.

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              • TXguy
                Member
                • Dec 2012
                • 35

                It appears as though richer man are more satisfying in bed than than the not-so-rich:
                Last edited by jns; 06-19-2018, 11:01 AM. Reason: Outbound links are not allowed.

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                • atskitty2
                  Assistant Admin
                  • Aug 2013
                  • 4467

                  TXguy, why do you think that?

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                  • TXguy
                    Member
                    • Dec 2012
                    • 35

                    Originally posted by atskitty2
                    TXguy, why do you think that?
                    I had provided a link to the survey, but I guess that is not allowed.

                    I do think women are drawn to wealth, because wealth symbolizes power, and power symbolizes security and safety. Security is the number one need of most women.

                    I also theorize that the divorce rate is so high because most men can't deliver security to their women, due to pop culture's assault on manhood and social re-engineering. I call it the Oprah effect: Women are just as powerful, strong, and aggressive as men. Men are dumb, less intelligent, and need lots of guidance from their women. When was the last commercial you saw that poked fun at the WOMAN instead of the dumb man? Or the last sitcom where the woman, not the man, was portrayed as the complete idiot? Or the last movie that had a normal portrayal of a man? So this business of reducing the man and elevating the woman has had the effect of creating all sorts of problems in man-woman relationships. The man has learned to be completely passive and let his woman take the lead. The woman works just as much as him, earn as much as him, decides just as much as him, guide just as much as him. The man has become a passive schlub. He cries a lot, bears his soul a lot, he acts like a woman. He can't provide her any security because he's a whipped little puppy. She thought she wanted a mirror of herself with a penis, but she was wrong. She figured out she really wanted a man. Oops.

                    Meanwhile, the woman has completely lost respect for her man. She doesn't want to have sex with him, because she is repulsed by him. He isn't a man, he's just a male. She has no respect for him whatsoever. And so the two then go to counseling or a marriage intensive and negotiate some sex for him. He unloads the dishwasher so that he can then get a little. That works for just a bit, and then she's lost any remaining respect for him. She then files for divorce and goes about trying to find a real man, not the one Oprah is talking about.

                    Oprah is wrong.

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                    • jns
                      Assistant Admin
                      • Mar 2010
                      • 8398

                      The link was to a Daily Mail article that didn't contain a link to the study or other studies that claim richer guys are more satisfying in bed. It did say that the study was from data from "The Chinese Health and Family Life Survey". I think it is a stretch to say that survey can be applied universally. There was no information about what is the typical sex life of a Chinese couple in China but I would bet it is different than the sex life of a couple in the USA or Canada or Europe. It may be that society in China has deified rich guys so much that women actually find wealth to be sexy.
                      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
                      ...
                      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

                      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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