[Vanessa R.]

Vanessa R. When I met the guy I've been dating, I actually asked him about his ghosting history the first time we met. He didn't really even know what it meant, and after I explained, he said he'd never done it. I didn't really believe him, so I pushed for more information. It lead into a discussion about our dating histories, and I learned a lot about him through that conversation. It showed me how mature he is, which I didn't expect since he's a bit younger than me.

I think it's maturity, just generally respecting another person and understanding that social expectations are sometimes really ok, and good. So, it is good to come across the ones who have grown beyond the disregard for someone's time and feelings, and have the emotional and mental capacity to handle any potential fallout from doing the right thing. lol

Good on you for broaching the subject in the beginning and whether he knew what ghosting was or not, it led to a meaningful conversation that perfectly segues into relationships in general and talking about dating histories in a way that doesn't feel overwhelming. Definitely agree on all your points and I'm sure the approach you took early on has led to being in a great place with the guy you're currently dating now. I think that's wonderful! :-)