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  • Moniq
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2025
    • 2

    Am I wrong, acting bad?

    Met this guy online, chat going really well for several weeks, then he shows me this photo! Every woman wants to know if a man has a chest like this but not after weeks, many weeks! I don't know what to say to him, its been days since I saw his unmanly chest, I feel he's hid something so important and yes I am angry! I have not replied since, I think he deserves to be ghosted, right? I don't think many of us women want intimacy with such either!?.... maybe he will respect a woman next time and understand the obvious, don't waste our time hiding such.. we need to know so now you're not granted even the time of a reply... I dont think I'm bad to completely ignore now after hes hid those, right?

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  • Wednesday L.F.
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2020
    • 362

    If you liked someone but don’t anymore because the attraction isn’t there, the kind thing to do is say so rather than leave them wondering. If you’re not able to be kind though, ghosting might be better.

    To answer your other question, I don’t believe anyone is obligated to show anyone any part of their naked body unless or until they want to. If you feel your time was wasted, it might be a good idea to explain the parameters of what you’re seeking more fully on your dating profile. If you never want to speak to someone again because of their “unmanly” body parts, he may feel you wasted his time as well.

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    • jns
      Assistant Admin
      • Mar 2010
      • 8398

      Originally posted by Moniq
      Met this guy online, chat going really well for several weeks, then he shows me this photo! Every woman wants to know if a man has a chest like this but not after weeks, many weeks! I don't know what to say to him, its been days since I saw his unmanly chest, I feel he's hid something so important and yes I am angry! I have not replied since, I think he deserves to be ghosted, right? I don't think many of us women want intimacy with such either!?.... maybe he will respect a woman next time and understand the obvious, don't waste our time hiding such.. we need to know so now you're not granted even the time of a reply... I dont think I'm bad to completely ignore now after hes hid those, right?
      Everybody has a different body than the next person and most cannot really do much about it. I doubt that this guy expected your reaction. There could be a lot of different reasons for this body shape. The most likely one is once being heavier and then slimming down with not all parts of his body slimming the same way. Older men sometimes look like this. Some hormone conditions and some drugs can also cause such looks. I think that some women would not have a problem with him looking like this and others would. The polite way would be to tell him why you are not continuing the chats, but do it in a kind way. I don't think he deserves to be ghosted but ghosting is common today.
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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