[Rebecca[[Diane]]]

hi im new to this.
thort id ask for some advice or help maybe.

im 18 next month.
and ive bin with my boyfriend for just over 13 months.
i love him with all my heart.
and i know he loves me too.
i trust him and he trusts me.

but the thing is... ive bin having nasty dreams bout him cheating on me.
kissing other girls in my dreams.
also wots happened to me twice is... ive had a dream were hes kissing another girl... and my bf has actually had to wake me up in the night cuz i wud be crying and shaking in my sleep.

it really gets to me.
and upsets me that i dream like this.
i dunno if its to do with my jealousy issues or not.

can anyone help?
thank you for reading this aswell.
becky.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sounds like you live together?

Do you think that he has ever done anything to make you think that he has been un-faithul to you?

Or, was someone else like this in your life before him.

You need to find out the issues, the reason why you feel jealous as you stated that you have that issue.

If you can establish the reason then you can work with the problem.


Welcome to the Forum as well.


CW

[sTyLeRock]

i would say its definatly insecurity,

maybe get some type of commitment? like i dunno get each other commitment rings?

[Guest]

Hi Becky,

doesnt sound un-normal. we all have dreams like that once in awhile. You did mention that you had jealousy issues. what are they? maybe they explain some of the dreams...

[Rebecca[[Diane]]]

Thank you those who replyed

lol we dont live together... we do on the weekend tho.
were in long distant yasee and we stay at each others over the weekend.

I can say my jealousy started wen i actually fell in love.
i hate seeing girls add him on myspace, it makes my stomache turn.
and if i see a girl comment his pic sayin hes fit, ill go proper sickk at him.
and then we'll end up arguing.

things have happened in my past. i started hangin round with these boys wen i was 14 an lucky me i chose an ASBO an a .
yes they both treated me like .
and forced me into stuff i didnt wanna do.
my boyfriend knows everyything bout my past and ive let it all so if thats wots causin the dreams i dunno how it is if i havnt got it bottled up inside me.

i think its the jealousy thats mainly causin my dreams.
i wish i wasnt jealous, its like the worse possible feeling everrrrr!

becky.

[Rebecca[[Diane]]]

gutted they cut my swearing out lolll... sorry if it didnt make sense!!
becky.

[Guest]

I can understand you being jealous, mostly because of what has happened to you in the past. sometimes we see what isnt there because of the past and it drives us nuts.

You are normal, new to having a good relationship and it's no surprise that you are feeling the way you are. You two live a distance apart, cant be with each other all the time, and see other girls saying he's hot.

does HE do anything to make you jealous, or is it you doing it to yourself?

[Rebecca[[Diane]]]

nooo he does nothing to make me jealous really.
i mean he has called other girls in the past fit while weve bin together.

i think its just me doing it to myself.
yano i thort a boy who loves u wud think ur the most beautiful girl in the world... an not see anyone else as beautiful as he says u are an stuff.
i find it hard, if i think a girl he speaks to or wot ever is much more prittier than me more attractive or has a better body i will feel like im in compotition then to be just like them an be as pretty an stuff.

just wish i wouldnt see it that way. i always say to myself... yeah i shud laugh it off an think hes with me an he wouldnt be wastin his time an money coming liverpool every other weekend to see me if he wanted someone else.
buttt... i cant do that.
its so hard not to get upset.
and i think its also coz im scared of loosing him.
i like need him. he keeps me going tbh.

becky.

[Guest]

yeah, it sounds like you are doing it to yourself somewhat.

I think you need to realize that it isnt a competition. There are always people that are more fit, or better looking, or more wealthy than others. There is a young woman who works in my office who is drop dead gorgeous, and prettier than most every other female in my organization. But if all I could choose to be with was from people in my organization, it wouldnt be her.

I'm sure that there are other men in the world you look at and think WOW!, but that doesnt mean you'd love them more than your current BF.

It's OK to appreciate other people being good looking and even commenting on it to a certain extent.

You are a beautiful and wonderful young woman. If your BF is worth anything, he loves you for you.

[Rebecca[[Diane]]]

i feel alot better now tbh.
thank youuu everyone for ur help
becky