Hello,
This all started back in November, the weekend before thanksgiving, My boyfriend said he and his brother were going to georgia to pick up his cousin because her boyfriend has been abusing her, which he has been telling me since the beginning of our relationship which started Jan. 1st 2006. Weeks before Thanksgiving he started telling me that they were thinking about going this particular weekend, and i asked is it ok if I tag along and asked him was his brothers girlfriend going and he said no she's not going so I said ok well that will give you and your brother quality time together anyway and I left if alone trusting that it was the truth.
Well the thursday before the weekend, he came to my desk, (yes, we worked together)and said they were getting ready to go and I said already and he said baby I told you this earlier on the phone and I said no you didn't you said you would not know until you go by your moms house, etc... He called before he left and said that they are on the way and I said well how are you guys going in his car or your moms car and in a muffled voice he said in my cousins car my reply was ok and call me while you are on the road so I know your ok. Well I fell off to sleep and woke up at 7:30 the next morning and called him. Cell phone was off as soon as I hung up he called, with muffled voice again, so I asked why are you talking like that he said like what, anyway he then called me at about 1:30 from his house and said that he was back (FROM GEORGIA, I SAID)he said yes but there had been a change of plans the cousins brother meet them half way in Naples and they dropped her off home (NAPLES!!!), I told him that the story did not sound right, and he got upset, my relationship has gone down ever since.
Since then I have left the station where we worked together and the Monday before I left, I was so frustrated with the way things were between us it was as if he didn't care anymore I lashed out and told him that it was over went home change my number, got weak wednesday, called him up and why did i do that he was so rude and mean to me, it rally broke my heart. Gave him the new number didn't call him anymore. He called me Monday night, said he missed me and had I eaten dinner yet I said I haven't eaten in days and started tearing up and he got a little upset and said don't start that. He then insisted on bringing me something to eat and I said ok and we sat in his car. Thinking everything was ok I called him up the next day (12:30 and 1) no answer and again around 6pm no answer I called his son and asked was his father home, he didn't know because he was at work about 5 minutes later he called and said what's up baby, I said needed to see you and that I was coming over and he said ok, are you alright I said yes; just need to see you, he asked are you sure you don't want me to come to you I said no, I'll be there shortly.
We talked he started talking about he need some time/space and I said no, I'm working on southside and your working on the northside that's enough space. He kept insisting on the space to get his head straight for us, I still didn't agree finally after calming down from crying, I said I'll give you space if I can still be there just a little bit he agreed. He walked me to my car and then got in the car and we went to do a few things like normal and everything was back to normal, I thought. He said before I left i'm going to get a call in the morning, I said yes, because every morning we talk on the way to work. Well I couldn't call him fast enough he called me first, and I said can you spend the night with me tonight, he said yes of course. Still thinking that everything is ok.
He came over we ordered pizza, picked out our number for lotto etc...a normal time. Then it started. He asked me baby what's wrong and all I was doing was sitting there happy, I knew instantly this wasn't good and I said yea what is wrong, and he said come sit up here with me I knew then, this was not going to be good because he has never wanted to talk before in the 2 year relationship. He asked me why I asked him to come over I said isn't it obvious I've missed you, well after insisting on the space again he said i'm asking you to trust me i'm doing this for us. I cried so much, and kept telling him how much I love him and that i'm the better woman for him, and he said he know, all the while comforting me, and the minute i said i'm not giving you any space he jumped up said he was leaving and I said please don't go I'll give you your space. he said it's not for a year or even months and i'm doing this for us he kept trying to reassure me that this is for us.
As hard as it was for me to say you can have your space I did. I asked him to make love to me for the last time his reply was(THE LAST TIME!!!) and he said baby i have to go to sleep, got to work in the morning and I immediately stop touching him and then he responded, afterwards I said thank you and turned over. He then started coming up with excuses to leave. He asked would I be upset if he left I said of course this is our last night together and he came up with something else and i just agreed, ok; asked him for a last hug and walked him to the door. The next morning he called me boo hoo, boo hoo crying saying how much he loves me and how he thought about me all night and all this morning and how he can't stop thinking of me so while he's crying i'm trying to see if it's real and I hear him trying to catch his breath and I said to him then end this thing you've gotten yourself into. He said can I call you on break I said yes, and he called and I asked him is what he said this morning the truth, he said of course it was, then why are you pushing me out of your life he said i'm not pushing you out I said then you need to stop with the time/space thing his reply to me was i'm going to do what I have to do I said ok, he said I will call you on my way home or when I get there, that was a normal thing for us and he did and the next day he didn't call at all. Then Friday(yesterday) he did about 4 times and I didn't answer the phone at all and i'm not ever again. My friend at work said he came up to her and asked her had she spoken to me today because he was trying to call me and he didn't get and answer.
I'm Very confused at the moment, I love this man unconditionally and explained to him that I can put this behind us if we can just stay together. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this, I know there is someone else and I know in my heart he has been cheating on me since about 3/4 months into our relationship and it all came together when I caught him this time. We have made so many plans for the future and now we have no future to plan. I've lost about 25 pounds since this has happen and I don't know how to handle it.
Please can someone, anyone give me some advice on what should i do because right now the only thing i trying to do is remove him from my heart.
Sincerely,
tibbla
This all started back in November, the weekend before thanksgiving, My boyfriend said he and his brother were going to georgia to pick up his cousin because her boyfriend has been abusing her, which he has been telling me since the beginning of our relationship which started Jan. 1st 2006. Weeks before Thanksgiving he started telling me that they were thinking about going this particular weekend, and i asked is it ok if I tag along and asked him was his brothers girlfriend going and he said no she's not going so I said ok well that will give you and your brother quality time together anyway and I left if alone trusting that it was the truth.
Well the thursday before the weekend, he came to my desk, (yes, we worked together)and said they were getting ready to go and I said already and he said baby I told you this earlier on the phone and I said no you didn't you said you would not know until you go by your moms house, etc... He called before he left and said that they are on the way and I said well how are you guys going in his car or your moms car and in a muffled voice he said in my cousins car my reply was ok and call me while you are on the road so I know your ok. Well I fell off to sleep and woke up at 7:30 the next morning and called him. Cell phone was off as soon as I hung up he called, with muffled voice again, so I asked why are you talking like that he said like what, anyway he then called me at about 1:30 from his house and said that he was back (FROM GEORGIA, I SAID)he said yes but there had been a change of plans the cousins brother meet them half way in Naples and they dropped her off home (NAPLES!!!), I told him that the story did not sound right, and he got upset, my relationship has gone down ever since.
Since then I have left the station where we worked together and the Monday before I left, I was so frustrated with the way things were between us it was as if he didn't care anymore I lashed out and told him that it was over went home change my number, got weak wednesday, called him up and why did i do that he was so rude and mean to me, it rally broke my heart. Gave him the new number didn't call him anymore. He called me Monday night, said he missed me and had I eaten dinner yet I said I haven't eaten in days and started tearing up and he got a little upset and said don't start that. He then insisted on bringing me something to eat and I said ok and we sat in his car. Thinking everything was ok I called him up the next day (12:30 and 1) no answer and again around 6pm no answer I called his son and asked was his father home, he didn't know because he was at work about 5 minutes later he called and said what's up baby, I said needed to see you and that I was coming over and he said ok, are you alright I said yes; just need to see you, he asked are you sure you don't want me to come to you I said no, I'll be there shortly.
We talked he started talking about he need some time/space and I said no, I'm working on southside and your working on the northside that's enough space. He kept insisting on the space to get his head straight for us, I still didn't agree finally after calming down from crying, I said I'll give you space if I can still be there just a little bit he agreed. He walked me to my car and then got in the car and we went to do a few things like normal and everything was back to normal, I thought. He said before I left i'm going to get a call in the morning, I said yes, because every morning we talk on the way to work. Well I couldn't call him fast enough he called me first, and I said can you spend the night with me tonight, he said yes of course. Still thinking that everything is ok.
He came over we ordered pizza, picked out our number for lotto etc...a normal time. Then it started. He asked me baby what's wrong and all I was doing was sitting there happy, I knew instantly this wasn't good and I said yea what is wrong, and he said come sit up here with me I knew then, this was not going to be good because he has never wanted to talk before in the 2 year relationship. He asked me why I asked him to come over I said isn't it obvious I've missed you, well after insisting on the space again he said i'm asking you to trust me i'm doing this for us. I cried so much, and kept telling him how much I love him and that i'm the better woman for him, and he said he know, all the while comforting me, and the minute i said i'm not giving you any space he jumped up said he was leaving and I said please don't go I'll give you your space. he said it's not for a year or even months and i'm doing this for us he kept trying to reassure me that this is for us.
As hard as it was for me to say you can have your space I did. I asked him to make love to me for the last time his reply was(THE LAST TIME!!!) and he said baby i have to go to sleep, got to work in the morning and I immediately stop touching him and then he responded, afterwards I said thank you and turned over. He then started coming up with excuses to leave. He asked would I be upset if he left I said of course this is our last night together and he came up with something else and i just agreed, ok; asked him for a last hug and walked him to the door. The next morning he called me boo hoo, boo hoo crying saying how much he loves me and how he thought about me all night and all this morning and how he can't stop thinking of me so while he's crying i'm trying to see if it's real and I hear him trying to catch his breath and I said to him then end this thing you've gotten yourself into. He said can I call you on break I said yes, and he called and I asked him is what he said this morning the truth, he said of course it was, then why are you pushing me out of your life he said i'm not pushing you out I said then you need to stop with the time/space thing his reply to me was i'm going to do what I have to do I said ok, he said I will call you on my way home or when I get there, that was a normal thing for us and he did and the next day he didn't call at all. Then Friday(yesterday) he did about 4 times and I didn't answer the phone at all and i'm not ever again. My friend at work said he came up to her and asked her had she spoken to me today because he was trying to call me and he didn't get and answer.
I'm Very confused at the moment, I love this man unconditionally and explained to him that I can put this behind us if we can just stay together. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this, I know there is someone else and I know in my heart he has been cheating on me since about 3/4 months into our relationship and it all came together when I caught him this time. We have made so many plans for the future and now we have no future to plan. I've lost about 25 pounds since this has happen and I don't know how to handle it.
Please can someone, anyone give me some advice on what should i do because right now the only thing i trying to do is remove him from my heart.
Sincerely,
tibbla
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