I've been in a relationship for 4 and a half years. We get along great, but on the odd occasion, he has told little white lies to me. I think I've been told another one but not sure how to blow this out in the open as I can't totally prove it.
Without going into past details, I'll jump right to the issue. The one night my boyfriend, let's call him Sam, told me he wouldn't be able to see me the following night as he had to go visit his mother.
The next night he called me around 10:00pm from his cell, I said wow that it was late for his mother to be up (she usually goes to bed early as she is very old). He said actually, when he left his mothers he got an unexpected phone call from Rog (who is a co-worker from out of town) and he wanted him to join him for dinner.
I said oh that was nice, then he added ya, him and his girlfriend just split up and he's lonely, blah, blah, blah so I had dinner with him. I kinda felt bad for Rog after hearing this and was glad that Sam did meet him.
About a month later, I saw his excel spreadsheet expense report and the details of that night was three people having dinner (Sam, C and Rog)with a dollar amount of $132.00 If he joined Rog and someone else, why didn't he mention the other person who was there?
I also couldn't figure out who C would be as there is no one that I can think of in their small company who's name started with C. Then it came to me, The only person I can possibly think would have that initial, is a girl that works with Sam and that C is the initial of her nickname that they call her at work.
Now, I ask myself, why did he not mention that she was there? There has been the odd time her name has come up, like the time Sam (who is the boss) gave her four and a half weeks off work to go on vacation to another country as everyone else in the small company is only allowed to take 1 week at a time.
Or the time after their company dinner they all hit the female stripclub and she was also there and I didn't find out about this event from either one of them, it was a third party who told me.
Other than that, her name doesn't really come up considering that she was basically recruited by me, as I used to work with her, until she took this new position.
She still sends me the occasional e-mail but has never talked about work other than if it's busy or not. Now back to seeing the expense report.
Firstly, I find it very convenient that he planned with me the night before to go visit his mother which he never does during the week. Secondly, if he was just ommitting her name from the equation because he thought it would upset me, why did he even go out for dinner with the two of them to begin with?
This Rog guy had called Sam occasionally and asked him to go for drinks but Sam has always said, maybe next time. So it's not unusual that he went for dinner with Rog but how did C get in this equation? The point I'm getting to is, there was a lie told right from the start and I feel this dinner was "planned". It's really bothering me that a lie was told.
Am I just reading more into this or should I let it go? I consider myself a confident person, but this is twice now that they have done something that I wasn't aware of, and I just feel like they do this and it's like a secret between them.
Also, how do I approach this second lie because I shouldn't really be reading his expense report, no matter where it's laying.
Without going into past details, I'll jump right to the issue. The one night my boyfriend, let's call him Sam, told me he wouldn't be able to see me the following night as he had to go visit his mother.
The next night he called me around 10:00pm from his cell, I said wow that it was late for his mother to be up (she usually goes to bed early as she is very old). He said actually, when he left his mothers he got an unexpected phone call from Rog (who is a co-worker from out of town) and he wanted him to join him for dinner.
I said oh that was nice, then he added ya, him and his girlfriend just split up and he's lonely, blah, blah, blah so I had dinner with him. I kinda felt bad for Rog after hearing this and was glad that Sam did meet him.
About a month later, I saw his excel spreadsheet expense report and the details of that night was three people having dinner (Sam, C and Rog)with a dollar amount of $132.00 If he joined Rog and someone else, why didn't he mention the other person who was there?
I also couldn't figure out who C would be as there is no one that I can think of in their small company who's name started with C. Then it came to me, The only person I can possibly think would have that initial, is a girl that works with Sam and that C is the initial of her nickname that they call her at work.
Now, I ask myself, why did he not mention that she was there? There has been the odd time her name has come up, like the time Sam (who is the boss) gave her four and a half weeks off work to go on vacation to another country as everyone else in the small company is only allowed to take 1 week at a time.
Or the time after their company dinner they all hit the female stripclub and she was also there and I didn't find out about this event from either one of them, it was a third party who told me.
Other than that, her name doesn't really come up considering that she was basically recruited by me, as I used to work with her, until she took this new position.
She still sends me the occasional e-mail but has never talked about work other than if it's busy or not. Now back to seeing the expense report.
Firstly, I find it very convenient that he planned with me the night before to go visit his mother which he never does during the week. Secondly, if he was just ommitting her name from the equation because he thought it would upset me, why did he even go out for dinner with the two of them to begin with?
This Rog guy had called Sam occasionally and asked him to go for drinks but Sam has always said, maybe next time. So it's not unusual that he went for dinner with Rog but how did C get in this equation? The point I'm getting to is, there was a lie told right from the start and I feel this dinner was "planned". It's really bothering me that a lie was told.
Am I just reading more into this or should I let it go? I consider myself a confident person, but this is twice now that they have done something that I wasn't aware of, and I just feel like they do this and it's like a secret between them.
Also, how do I approach this second lie because I shouldn't really be reading his expense report, no matter where it's laying.
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