[Guest]

hello.

.... so i posted awhile back about my bf stressing out at work. and i did what some of you have suggested and its working..(yay). i just had to find that confidence i once had and kinda just let him be. i've picked up some more hobbies that i could do as well.

BUT now, he's thinking of quitting is job. i fully support what makes him happy. and to be honest he IS getting treated like . i just fear that the way the economy is going i don't know if anything he finds will be secure enough. i don't make enough to support the both of us. he's a smart and hard-working guy. i am not sure if quitting any job right now is good financially.

i know and understand what he's going through,i've been there before. i just don't want him to "settle" for a job that might make him more stressed and unhappy.

any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ultimately, it's his decision.

If this job is bringing him down daily then he has to find alternative work.

But, I would say to him, start sending of your resumes and apply where-ever you want but try to hold out with your job whilst your doing it babe, that way you get the best of both worlds. Being able to quit, therefore saying seeya guys, whilst also being able to say because I have a way better job.

At the same time, naturally no loss of income, that's the smart way to walk.......and also the one that puts a smile on your face.

To just quit and then look, those guys are just going to think "looser", instead of damd he got another job better? grrr.

See?

CW

[Guest]

thanks CW.

we just went to lunch; and he explained to me more about the situation. and i have to agree that he needs to find some place better. he is looking and getting references and things like that. so i have no doubt he's gonna find something good. or at least better than where he is now.

i guess the bottom line is that i support whatever decision he makes. as long as he's happy. then it's all good.

thanks again!

[WildChild]

Just don't quit one w/o another lined up.

[kms]

^ agreed. The idea of just quitting now and escaping a bad work environment I'm sure is very tempting, BUT once he's unemployed and the bills start piling up and he starts feeling inadequate because he can't pull his weight financially in the relationship (and a lot of guys get hung up on this), he'll desperately wish he stuck it out til he found another job.

[Guest]

thank you all ladies for the good reasons you have brought. we have talked about it just lightly since last week when he first brought it up. he has told me that he's gonna wait the more and stick out until he can find a place that will offer him a job that has good vibe to it... he is a pretty smart guy. and i don't doubt that he will do something that isn't logical or rational at this point.


....thanks again for the feedback.