[heartbrokenn]

This will be long but i hope someone will read this and give me some advie.

I met Tom when he came to my school he likes every girl at school and he has always a girlfriend when he came i didn't really like him untill we started hanging out. I fell in love with him although i don't know what i really see in him i guess because he was the only boy to actually find me attractive. He asked me out and than i said he really liked me and i said i liked him back so he asked me to be his girlfriend and i agreed. We were togther just for a few months than we broke up and didn't really talk to each other. I never really got over him but somehow i managed to keep it cool. It's now been about 2 years and we stated to talk again but not that much to be together. We've been hangning out for about a year now and i thought i was over him untill this thursday. There was a big accisdent in my school at lunch break i was in the hall sitting with my friends and there was a door made out of glass behind us, Tom was standing in front of us and than someone pushed him on the door he broke the glass hitting the door and the glass fell on me a piece of glass got into my hand and i lost a lot of blood and i was panicking but tom saw what happend he took me to the nurse and was with me and he kept saying that everything was going to be ok (even though he was really hurt to but he was more worried about me than himself) and told me not to cry. We than went to the hospital and he was with me than also.
I thought that we went a lot that day we would be closer but last night i found out that he asked my best friend to be his girlfriend and she knows that i'm in love with him and she doesn't know what to do and i'm crying all the time. And tomorrow is school and he's going to keep asking her what's her answer i just need some advise please write what you think about this!

p.s sorry for my bad english

[sourpuss]

From the sounds of your post you are still in high school I assume. I wouldn't get to worked up over it. Concentrate on you and your interests, friends, family, hobbies, etc. Once you focus on yourself and you are happy, the right people will come into your life.

In other words: You are young and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Move forward and make yourself happy.

[mewhenim]

Yeah, I know it's hard, but high school, and someone that asks if you want to be their girlfriend isn't too big a deal. Focus on you, when you are happy, you will attract people.

[vics68]

These answers may seem insane to you right now but we know how you feel. Right now he is the most amazing guy and he's gorgeous and no1 else will ever be right..it's school! you're supposed to get a few bruises on your heart! I was besotted with one guy throughout my highschool career and i thought the world was over when we ended. Since then i've had my heart broken for real and am currently trying to deal with that. But trust me find yourself a new guy maybe he doesnt even realise you like him like that anymore!? x

[WildChild]

Talking with men about how they thought at this age - it seems true that almost every girlc can seem attractive at some point. The girls tend to play themselves up almost like a product - they are experimenting with their sexual attraction and power. Some guys find one girl that just "does it" for them while other are like kids in a candy shop -they want it all! And there are just too many possiblities to really choose.

It sounds like this boy, cares about you and is a decent guy but he's not hinking about you in the same way you are him. That might change day or not. Right now you are hurting and it's hard but crying and being miserable won't help - in fact it could drive him away. Most males have a problem being around an unhappy woman, part of what validates them is to be able make a girl happy. Thank him for his concern and for helping you. Let him know you are healing well and appreciated his attention. Then just stay pleasant and freindly. He is more likely to think of you positively if he sees you happy than miserable. Move on, if he's interested he'll let you know otherwise it doesn't help you to be sad. It will hurt for a while but it will get better! We've all been through it and become stronger for it. This is part of learning what you really need and want in your life.